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Preschool education

Get advice from other Mumsnetters to find the best nursery for your child on our Preschool forum.

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Starting nursery at the January intake

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gorionine · 22/12/2009 09:45

DD4 was 3 in November. We have put her down to start nursery this January (she will do it until July and then do another full year of it).

I think she will benefit from it as she does not see as many children as my other DCS used to when they were her age (at the time all my friends had DCS the same age as mine which is not the case anymore). I also think she will enjoy herself a lot there, the staff is really nice and she has met them a few time. My concern is that she is quite a "bossy" little thing and still prone to tantrums every now and then.

Please tell me she will be fine, I am having second thoughts!!

Oh and also, anyone got a way to make DD4 understand that she does not need to take all her clothes off when she goes to the toilet?

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PlonkerTeatowelOnTheirHeads · 22/12/2009 10:13

She'll love it! ...and she'll have the nursery whipped into shape before you know it

She will be absolutely fine - and what's the worse that can happen? She doesn't settle and you take her out and try again next term, no biggie

No idea re the clothes btw cos all of mine have done this and grown out of it (although they never did it at nursery!).
Maybe the cold will be a deterrent ...

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gorionine · 22/12/2009 10:24

Thanks PlonkerTeatowelOnTheirHea!

Yeas, she will keep them straight!

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wb · 23/12/2009 09:56

My ds was exactly the same age when he started and he loved it. Going to pre-school helped him a lot with things like self-toileting (esp. peeing standing up, a big achievement for a small boy), sharing, listening etc - cause I wasn't always there hovering anxiously. I had huge qualms about sending him but they were sort of general 'he's my baby' type things rather than any specific worries based on him iyswim. I don't by any means feel pre-school is essential, or right at 3 for every child but nothing you have said makes me think that your daughter isn't ready. Bossiness, tantrums etc are perfectly normal for a 3 year old - she won't be the only one

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gorionine · 23/12/2009 11:07

You are right wb, I am pretty sure it has got more to do with "she is my baby" than her actual abilities!

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shivster1980 · 02/01/2010 22:37

The clothes thing - my DS used to do this! Get your DD to wear her shoes in the house and put her in trousers. That we she will have to keep her clothes on. Worked with my DS.

tikkapots · 06/01/2010 20:16

Hia

Your little girl sounds just like mine lol.

She is 2.5 and starts pre school 2 mornings a week on 11 January, so we'll have to compare notes.

:-D

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gorionine · 07/01/2010 10:54

SHe start tomorrow! She cannot wait, she keeps on telling me she will play with sand and have friends! (hope they have got a sandpit or...

Great advice Shivster1980, We do not wear shoes in the house but she will definitely wear them in nursery so it might help [fingets crossed emoticon]

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tikkapots · 08/01/2010 12:04

Awww, how did she get on today ??

I am getting so excited about Monday x

bluemousemummy · 08/01/2010 14:07

Ds1 starts on Monday and has just turned 3 over Christmas.. I am bracing myself for him hating it (we tried nursery a few months ago and I don't think he has forgiven us yet...)!
Difference is I have a 10 month old as well who needs more attention than he is currently getting so I am standing firm this time and if he doesn't like it, it's only 3 mornings a week and the rest of the time our lives pretty much revolve around him so he can lump it. That's what I'm saying now anyway, I may crack when it comes down to it of course...

Incidentally, I remember hating preschool when I was little - couldn't handle the fact that I wasn't the centre of attention I suppose, but there again is it realistic for children to get their own way ALL the time, especially when there are other people's needs to consider?

tikkapots · 09/01/2010 09:57

Hia Bluemousemummy

Hope hope he enjoys it Monday.

I think a good reason to send kids to pre-school/nursery is to help them realise the world does not revolve around them :-)

In our house, the kids have to fit in with us and not the other way round. They certainly do not get their own way all the time, if they did it would be absolute mayhem....arghghghhghghg.

I need to pop out and get her some little shoes today, they have to wear those black plimsoles inside the pre-school.

Good luck and let us know how you get on.

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tikkapots · 11/01/2010 17:56

Well my lo loved it. She ran off and played on her own and tried everything out. She then went into the hall with the older kids (they have an open door policy) found someone she knows and that was it. I decided to leave then.

She did not have a sleep when we came home though, and we have had a huge tantrum.

Am proud of her though. And she thinks she is very grown up with her book bag ans storey book that she chose.

I do hope your LOs got on OK ladies ?

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bluemousemummy · 12/01/2010 21:22

Hi tikkapots

Well done and glad it's working out for you. I stayed with ds1 the whole session on Monday so he was fine, except when it was time for them to play outside - I said I was going to stay inside to bf ds2 and he went mad and refused to go out with the other kids . But otherwise ok. Dh is going to take him tomorrow and stay with him, then we've told him he's on his own on Friday.

His behaviour has been really bad the last couple of days, lots of tantrums etc, think he is obviously v anxious about it all. Ah well, next few weeks could be a bit rocky I reckon but he'll get used to it...

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