Problem with a playgroup staff member WWYD?

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There is one member of staff I do not like.

I wvolunteered there for a while and I psted about her at the time, she took the kids away from me, ignored me, made me feel horrid.

Well I don't volunteer anymore (wonder why?!) but this still goes on.

DH says she is the same with him.

And I mentioned it to another member of staff in a chatty way when I volunteered and she said 'everyone thinks that'

Well the straw came the other day when I was about 7 mins late for picking up DS.

I walked in and DS was sat at a table with this worker playing (she is good with the kids) he was pretending to eat a toy bagel.

So I rushed over kissed him, turned to 'jenny' who was sat oppositte him and said 'im so sorry were late jenny' and she compeletely blanked me.

I said it loudly, clearyly, she was right next to me.

I just didn't know what to do.

I just got DS and walked off.

She has a face like shes got shit on her top lip and just sniffed it..

It really annoyed me and am considering talking to someone more officially.

Would you?

tw ITS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING LATE, oops! i hate already apologised to the play leader about it and she was fine, im never late!

She just does it all the time, but this occaion was so direct i was just shocked.

Can you not say something to play leader if everyone thinks the same. Sorry but no matter eaht she thinks of you she needs to talk to you.

I would put it in writing to the manager/owner it is much easier for them to use it as disciplinary material if they feel appropriate. I think you need to state why you think it is an issue

Perhaps

• bad example to the children
• unprofessional attitude to the parents
• discouraged from either of you volunteering

don't make it a witch hunt though

Why would it be a witch hunt?
I don't think i want to get her in trouble, i might mention it again to the worke I am more friendly with, see what she says.

DS will be ther till next september and DD after that so I dont want to feel silly for years to come!

Is it a disciplinary matter though?

I don't think it is, but I think its rude and she shouln't make me or anyone else feel daft or uncomftable.

Personally, I'd ignore her and deal with other members of staff. Assuming she's not your DSs key worker or anything Everyone already knows what she's like.

I hae ignored her, DS1 went there so this has gone on for years now!

But I would like to volunteer there again so I feel I need to say something at least.

witch hunt is if it were worded badly as a personal attack rather than stating the issues that are relevant to her job - not sure if that makes sense.

When my son was little, there was one member of nursery staff who would often use inappropriate language - no swearing etc. When you arrived to pick up your kid she would go on about what a hard day she was having - how annoying the kids had been. Needless to say lots of parent complained. They thing was - she was very good with the kids but terrible with the parents.

The nursery sent her off to have some extra professional training with correct language - etc - I think she had no idea and was relating to us as if we were friends in the playground. However, we weren't her friends - she was a professional who was looking after our kids. The extra training and meant that she learnt how to work with the parents and understand what our expectations were.

This is crucially important. I would go and see the nursery manager - tell her what happened, that you feel this is inappropriate in front of you child, regardless of whether you were late or not. Ask the manager what she thinks. Does she think you being fair? You don't want to get her in trouble but you need to get it off your chest. The manager should take your complaint on board and look into it for you.

Do bear in mind that she is good with the kids. Much better that way round than good with you (like a politician) and rubbish with the kids.