My First thread, I feel my Son is too much trouble for teacher

[mumny]

I will try to keep this as short as poss. My son started pre school in Oct 08 4 days a week morning sessions.

On the fifth day he attends Private nursery all day, has done since he was 1 yr old.

Pre school would not let him attend full sessions for the for the first half term saying he was not looking lost, wondering around aimlessly not engaging in activities, and unable to flush the toilet. He eventually went for two hours a week but I was told by teacher that they have circle time at 11 and she did not feel my son could cope with concentrating and would distract the other children.
Anyway, it turns out he has Special Needs and the teacher told me she didn't want to say anything until she was sure.

It has taken me this long to write about my experience with the nursery and I thought I would not feel excluded again. But this week she managed to make me feel "left out" again.
A school trip was organised which I signed up and paid for, I then had to cancel as my sons private nursery are having the official class photo that same day, I explained this to the pre school teacher and told her how disapointed I was that my son could not go on the trip etc etc and I truly meant it. all she said was oh thats a shame, do they have their own photographer?! I then got my money back 10 seconds later and that was that

TWO DAYS AGO I GOT A LETTER TITLED XX TRIP ON THE XX MAT AND XX MAY PLEASE BRING YOUR CHILD TO SCHOOL.....SO IT TURNS OUT ANOTHER DATE IS AVAILABLE TO MY SON AS THEY ARE GOING ONE WEEK WITH MORNING CHILDREN AND FOLLOWING WEEK WITH AFTERNOON CHILDREN. AFTER A FEW WORDS WITH KEY WORKER AND TEACHER I HAVE NOW ARRANGED FOR MY SON TO ATTEND WITH THE AFTERNOON CHILDREN, IT WASN'T WITHOUT HITCH THOUGH, SHE HAD TO CHECK STAFF TO ADULT RATIO, FINE NO PROBS WITH THAT, SHE HAS TO ASK HIS ONE TO ONE VOLUNTEER, SHE HAS CONCERNS ABOUT HIS FOOD ALLERGIES....
SHOULD I SEND MY SON ON HIS FIRST EVER TRIP WITHOUT ME OR HUSBAND WITH A TEACHER WHO I FEEL DOES NOT WANT HIM THERE?

THANK-YOU FOR READING THIS, ALL OPINIONS ARE VERY MUCH APPRECIATED AS I KNOW I AM VERY SENSITIVE ABOUT MY SON SO IF YOU THINK I AM OVER ANALYSING THIS PLEASE TELL ME.

I think you are over-analysing it.

Your DS will be fine of
n the trip. Staff are trained to cope with all sorts of children and cater to their needs and keep them safe and happy.

turn the caps lock off though please, it would make it easier to read.

How on earth does she not want him there? She probably did not think to offer the other date at the time. I think you are taking it too personally.

Also, she may have been put out a bit by your son attending another nursery, if she did not know so already. Most nurseries prefer to be the only one.

(It was a little difficult to read, with the caps lock on)

I was trying to give history in small cap put my case forward in caps to make it easy..it didn't work. Thanks for ready and thanks for your reply.

I think when you have a child with SN you can be very on edge and over analyse things I think the teacher hasnt taken into account your feelings but Im sure she doesnt think your ds is too much trouble.

Let him go he will love it it will be a great experience for him -the first of many but be ready- you will cry .

Stop fretting.

I think it sounds really positive actually. She has made an effort to find another way of letting him go on the trip so he doesn't miss out. Not all nurseries would have done that. Sounds like she does want him there.

(btw in internet etiquette, capitals means angry shouting)

Thank-you all, I shall chill out and hope he has a good time. I'll take some tissues Nickschick .