Am I overreacting to the nursery not telling me the full story?

[MrsFogi]

The nursery called me today to come and pick up dd because she had "fallen over" and damaged her lips and possibly teeth. My nanny picked up dd and was asked to sign a book to record the incident - book stated dd had fallen over. On the way home dd told the nanny and when she got home she told me that she had been pushed over by a boy at nursery and that the teachers had told him off. I know that these sort of things happen at nursery however I'm concerned that the nursery don't appear to have been open with me about pushing v. falling. Any views?

It is possible that the staff did not see the push. In that case they can only write what they see, i.e the fall. We can't always rely on what children say. They may suspect she was pushed and possibly told the other child off. Hard to say really.
Hope your DD is ok.

I work at a junior school and the other day had to clean up the knees of a boy who fell over right in front of me.

He'd been playing chase, and as soon as I' d picked him up said 'x tripped me up'. The other boy had been five feet behind and the faller had just been running too fast, but he was genuinely convinced he'd been tripped. I told both of them that they shouldn't have been running like that in that area (it was on a pathway with little children about) so they might say I 'told them off'.

Even if there was contact between the children, it could easily have been accidental, and the staff may just have told the boy to be more careful.

Rusty's story is worth noting. I have known a lot of similar incidents.

in extreme cases the child gets the blame even when they haven't been in that day!

Agree.It is very normal for kids to milk injuries as much as possible by saying another kid did it.

Whenever ds (3.8) falls, trips, drops something when he is with us he instantly says "mummy! You made me/pushed me/didn't hold my hand even though I snatched it away from you/we are inside anyway".

I think you should mention what was said the officer in charge just to put your dds story forward and gauge their response.

I remember once marching back to pre-school because dd1 told me the black mark on teh bridge of her nose was a result of a certain little boy whacking her with a spade in the sandtray.

was mortified to discover said child was on a day off that day and dark mark was a smudge that wiped off with a babywipe

had to apologise to staff who I had just ranted at and slunk away tail between legs.

sometimes they tell 100% truth othertimes it gets a bit fabricated IME.

In year 2 a friend of dd's was tripped up by one of the boys. For some reason, dd's friend became convinced that dd had done it. The teacher had seen the whole incident and told me the girl had been a couple of metres away from dd and running towards her, but to this day - they're in year 5 - the girl still believes that dd did it. The boy even admitted to it!