Parent /teacher consultation - what shall I ask?

[fridayschild]

So this afternoon I have a meeting with the teacher at Ds2's pre-school to see how the little love is getting on. I have to admit I am having trouble taking this seriously - the pre-school is rated excellent by OFSTED, he is a charming child while he is there as long as he gets the green cup (not a mistake they would make twice), and he is not my PFB.

He can write his name when he wants to, can count to twenty but does not know all the letters of the alphabet. Equally he is only 4.5 years old and I am perfectly content with this level of achievement.

can you help with me this important moment in my baby's education?

I always ask what DD1 likes doing while she's there, any new interests, any new friends etc.
It gave me the chance to discuss problems she was having with one particular boy (now addressed and resolved.)

They usually have a folder with work and will have looked at her 'progress' in things like cutting, colouring, jumping, hopping and skipping.

I come away slightly concerned that her hopping isn't up to scratch and resolve to practice with her at home (joke)

Just smile encouragingly at the teacher and compliment them on their hard work. They'll love you!

At my ds's nursery and now school p/t consultations I usually sit there trying to take in what they are saying and trying to remember what it is I want to say. I usually fail with both. At every one of these I have been to there is always something about ds's work that surprises me and I say something like 'are you sure he did that?'.

At this age I find them a bit wishy washy tbh - 'ds is doing what he should be doing etc etc' When I really want to know is he bright/middle/in need of help. Ds is 4.9

I would be asking how they thought the transition to school will go
is there anything I can do at home to help this
are there any areas that he struggles with or does really well

Thanks for all the help - the teacher at nursery was DS1's teacher in Reception last year and she did agree there was not much to parent consultations at this stage. And it seems they do agree he is a charming child with lovely manners and there is absolutely no need for me to do anything special before he goes to school [smug mama emoticon]