DS's first day of preschool- Is this behaviour normal?

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Ds had his first morning of preschool today. He has never been looked after outside the home eg. nursery, childminder, so I was worried how he would settle. As it was he was fine and I was able to drop him off telling i'd be back to pick him up later.
When I went to pick him up his teacher said he'd been fine and no problems. But he's like a different child. He wont speak to me and when he does he just says, "No."
"Did you have a nice time?" "No."
"What did you do?" "Nothing."
He wont tell me about his morning at all. And he's been misbehaving since we got home. I wonder if he's angry with me for leaving him?

DS says 'I played' very time we ask him what he did. We have to specifically ask "did you paint? did you play with water?"
And yes, he's probably playing you up for leaving him too

completely normal. DS still says he does nothing and he is in reception

Mine is now her 3rd year at the Maternelle and she says the same - "nothing". When I say she must have done something all day, she replies that she can't remember. I wouldn't worry. It always takes a little while to settle with a big change.

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He is adjusting to what is a completely unknown experience - give him time . And remember - he doesn't have the verbal skills to describe new experiences yet.

DS (who is in Reception) still does this a lot. A normal account of day is "I did nothing and played with no one". We also have the shutting down and bad behaviour, which I think are both reactions to being tired by having to absorb all the new experiences. I usually plonk him in front of the tv with a snack to wind down before attempting to get anything sensible out of him.

I have always thought it was just my ds who was this way when she came home from reception and right through infants and juniors. When she went to secondary school she still said 'done nothing' and 'nothing to tell'.

What it took me a while to work out was that when she had the verbal skills to tell me, then she would, and obiously, she only told me when the mood took her. Kids eh!

My ds started like that at pre-school and has continued it two years later at reception. I always find out what he has done by talking to other parents whose children 'fess up. According to my ds he has no friends, doesn't do any of the timetabled activities ever and in fact does nothing all day every day! I have tried all the usual stuff - asking specific questions - but never with any success. Should also add that my ds was a very early talker so lack of verbal skills has nothing to do with it!!

Apparently all my DS2 ever does at pre-school is 'KUNG FOOOO'.

I hope not!!

i would inagine for a child who has never been in regular care outside of home, it felt quite alien for him today. and he is probably just making sense of it all in his head. he is answering no and nothing because he may still be unsure of how he feels about the situation. do not worry, he will soon grow to expect this environment and routine and will settle down fine. it will just take time.

Asking them "what was the best bit?" and "what was the worst bit?" usually gets better answers than a non-specific "what have you done?"