Awkward situation: DS bit his keyworker's daughter...

[Kevlarhead]

Not going to discuss causes/provocation:

Just wondered if anyone who actually worked in a preschool environment could say what the professional response to this should be...

Ask him to sit & think about what he did/time out
Cuddle her
(possiblly ask him to say sorry depending on setting policy)
Write 2 incident reports
Monitor the situation to identify triggers and intervene before incident occurs again

Probably would be p'd off but as a proffessional, understand and leave it, with no repercussions

Why?

Oh yes incident reports should be confidential & you shouldn't know who it was he bit

Unless he/she told you

It's not a big preschool, so relations between people are fairly transparent and he's big enough to tell us the whole story.

MIL picked up DS, and reported his keyworker looked distinctly pissed off, which is understandable.

Biting anyone is pretty much unheard of for DS, so hopefully there won't be any repeats...

How did today go?

Fine. Nothing exciting/shocking occurred...

Ds is... a logical wee soul. I think he only bit the kid in question because it seemed a logical course of action.

As long as we can avoid situations where that sort of decision-making comes into play, we shouldn't see a repeat.

Why aren't you supposed to know who they bit? My DS' keyworker told me that he pinched A the other day. Should she not have told me the girl's name?

As a worker I would have seen children of this age bite quite a lot, I suppose it seems a bit more shocking than other types of preschool "violence". Agree accident/ incident report filled out and perhaps note in file. Not too big a deal.

nappyaddict - no, under standard protocols she shouldn't hav told you the name. Nursery staff know that once a child gets to a certain age the child will tell you, but they (the staff) are still supposed to maintain confidentiality.

why is that though?

also should the playgroup staff have told A's mum that it was DS who pinched A or just a child?

Should have just said another child. There's a wole confidentiality / data protection thing,I think -- plus you can see on Mumsnet that some parents take a very hardline atitude towards any child who has hurt their precious darling and in theory a "nonames" policy stops ill-feeling or vigilante parenting.

There's one Mumsnetter with twins who was told onone occasion that Twin A had ben bitten by another child and that Twin B had bitten another child. It was obvious that one of her twins had bitten the other, but nursery staff weren't allowed to say that.