Advise needed.
My daughter is 2 years and 4 months old and started at a local, private nursery during the middle of last year 2025.
Over the holidays she mentioned something to me that has deeply disturbed me, while changing her nappy, she told me that a boy in her class has "played" with her private area. Questioning this in a casual manner, she has been extremely descriptive, pointing and doing actions that she shouldn't and wouldn't know about..
The boy's name has been mentioned before by her, in that he has pushed her, she is clear that she doesn't like him, but this latest admission has shocked us to the point we don't know what to do now or where to go.
We understand this boy is slightly older than her, when I mentioned him previously at the Nursery recently, I got a weird/look reaction from one of the staff and she said something like "he's been moved up to another group" which is odd, as he has been in her class, mentioned in group images. They've mentioned previously they have held hands, and in fact it would seem they were innocently as friends previously, which is why I knew of his name. It's clear however, over the past few months his behaviour towards her and perhaps others has caused her to say she now actively doesn't like him and that's a rare thing for her to say.
What do we do now in terms of taking this up with the Nursery? I am a new parent, we have had a couple of incidents at this Nursery already, another child bit my daughter completely unprovoked and I went in a bit guns blazing (they left teeth marks) since then I feel that perhaps they are a bit afraid of raising anything else with me.
More concerning is, it was communicated a few months ago that my daughter fell over and cut her lip, the way they described it was odd - it didn't seem realistic. When I asked her about it, she told me "it was **boy mentioned above he pushed me".
How many parents have dealt with these sorts of things? Where do we go? What do we do from here? I understand children get things confused, but this to me seems far to exact to have been made up, she is extremely intelligent for her age, her vocabulary is advanced for her age, and she is precise always with her language for a two year old. She is exact and precise with how she describes it and not only that she is clear she doesn't like it and doesn't like the boy.
Thank you for your advise in advance.