Before my 3 year old starts pre school.

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My daughter is starting pre school in September she will be three in July so one of the youngest in the year. I am trying to get her as prepared as possible.

Talking is good and can have basic conversations.
almost potty trained (fully apart from I nappy her on long journeys but she treats them as pants) so I would say 95% there.
Pretty independent
Can follow basic instructions.
Can put her shoes on and almost dress herself.

Im wondering what I can do/teach her to support the transition from grandmas and two days a week at nursery to pre school. Possibly, what would support the pre school teacher.

Please forgive me if this is a really stupid question she's a first born and I don't really have much family to base this off.

Do the last 5% of potty training. Make sure she can toilet independently as well (pull her own pants/shorts down, go by herself, wipe, pull everything back up, flush and wash her hands).

Keep working on dressing herself, particularly shoes and socks and coat/cardigan.

Patience is a good one to work if she's used to being looked after one-on-one. She's going to need to both wait and take turns.

Sharing. Being a good winner and loser.

Make sure she can advocate for herself. She needs both the language and more importantly the confidence to tell a new adult what she needs.

Thank you for your reply.

Definitely need to finish the potty training off - she is extremely independent with that and takes herself off at nursery.

I keep going through emotions with her - how would that little boy feel if you take that toy off him? How does that ice cream make you feel etc etc.

Don't worry. Sounds like you and your daughterare definitely going .in the right direction. She will be fine. X

She'll be fab, and pre schools are very good at supporting the transition. Definitely don't worry if she has accidents there, that happens as its new and distracting. I would say getting used to turn taking and sharing is a good one, as there will be more children there than she's used to.
I generally wouldn't put much pressure on it though, it'll potentially be a little wobbly to start, but they will help her through that and are very used to new children coming in. She sounds like she's doing brilliantly and I hope she really enjoys pre school

My 3yr old starts in September, she's in nursery, we've just had issues with a boy which had set her back on potty training, but she still won't poop on a potty or toilet, no amount of bribery helps!! But it will happen, my son started 2 weeks after he was 3 during COVID and never being in nursery, he struggled socially with it but smashed learning, plus school has a totally different way of teaching things like reading and maths so I'd not worry

Sounds like she’s ready! Honestly, I’d say you’re there. Pre-school staff are brilliant at supporting a wide range of kids. They all come in at different stages. Do you follow Five Minute Mum at all? She’s got sone great content and a book on starting school.

www.amazon.co.uk/Five-Minute-Mum-Starting-School/dp/0241621321/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?crid=1Z6N2YKDHAJ9C&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.PLyMOU1A_r14FbVhdCkuCWLuJeK2J69sUXUHqnzij02luE0gN3XSfR4Dl4hceKKJcfXLYsbZ3J-C-AuR1iLz8OuPwWecPuNpjarLVEM3tiGL9Kr6Zlz2Zhj9P6h3MXEbN_L87r_biHzYcJl6J02cU5Xy3C4IehxVRAK_W7bWNfsDzrT_SPNTmsRhzRgKjwTJADPr4i3Vmutz7GuHRl4XPA.qOsTTDqANcl5CaR2QsOEjkk48CGixuhnE-QwRKl2uxE&dib_tag=se&keywords=starting+school&qid=1751489164&sprefix=starting+%2Caps%2C95&sr=8-4

I have worked in preschools and honestly she sounds ready as it is. I'd just try and play lots of turn taking games, and start delaying meeting her "wants" a little - not ignoring her just maybe not doing what she wants as quickly as you might usually (I have an only July child, it was something I recognised I had to do for him starting!)

I work in a preschool and worked as a teacher for 20+ years, much of which was in EYFS. I’d say exactly what NuffSaidSam and AuntMarch said above. Focus on the toileting, (make sure you put loads of spares in her bag just in case!), turn taking, self-help skills, (putting coat, shoes, socks on etc) eating with cutlery, turn taking etc, although the preschool will develop those skills with her when she starts.
If she wears a uniform and hasn’t had one on before, have a couple of practice runs with it, so it’s not overwhelming on that first morning.
Good luck and have those tissues ready for her first day, Mama!

Using the toilet and cleaning independently.