Our 4.2 year old still has the occasional toileting accident (no. 2s) he gets constipated (hes a picky eater)..I'm worried he'll have accidents when he starts primary school in 2 months time. Hes also due to get grommets this week but his attention span really isn't great, he rushes through everything. He has a good group of friends starting primary.school with him but I'm wondering if deferral would be a better option for him. I'm worried his confidence will be affected if he struggles in primary /has toileting accidents but deferring and seperating him from his friends could also negatively affect him. As far as he knows so far hes going to school with his friends. Hardly anyone defers here. What should we do? What's more detrimental?