I don't know whether to take my almost 4 year old out of nursery. She says she doesn't like it and once said she was scared, but when she's there her keyworker says she settles fine and has slowly started interacting with others. She says she wants to go to playgroups where I stay with her. She doesn't cry but she is older and I know she tries to be brave so I'm going off her reluctance to go and what she tells me. She's only been going for 4 months but thought she would be enjoying it by now. I want her to be thriving, not struggling and overwhelmed. The nursery is quite busy and she told me it's too loud. I think she struggles with initiating interactions and does much better when there are less children. The staff present isn't always consistent either. She joined the nursery half way through the year so the other children are much more confident there.
She may start school in September but as a summer born there is the option to defer her. She has expressed wanting friends but as we recently moved house she had to start again with making friends. We could make friends at playgroups. We just started tumble tots and she thrived and loved it and wants to go back.
Just not sure whether to keep sending her, my partner thinks if we stop sending her she'll be worse when she goes to school, on another forum parents have said the opposite, that taking a child out in a similar situation will benefit her more as she'll have had her feelings validated and be more confident and secure and ready when the time comes to go. Does anybody have any experiences with this?