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Sending my child to school once he turns 5 and not 4..

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Dreamymama · 05/07/2024 23:09

Hi guys my sons born in July which means he could start reception this year, however I decided to keep him in day care for another year and start school once he turns 5. Reason being I think he’s not ready for school just yet he’s quite an active baby and has issues with focusing etc, the nursery also suggested this. I am a bit confused now as a fellow mum said the transition between daycare and school will be too big for him but I thought reception is pretty similar to year 1 he’s also quite attached to few of his friends at day care who will be starting school once they turn 5 so thought if he can stay at his nursery for another year it’s okay. Any opinions??

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Meadowtrees · 07/07/2024 07:10

OP - what do his current nursery say? It’s very unusual that they haven’t discussed schooling with you. I don’t really understand how it came about that you just didn’t apply to schools and have left it this late to think about it.

Daisywoodstr · 25/05/2025 19:14

Dreamymama · 06/07/2024 11:10

I totally agree! I think he will be fine starting in reception when he’s 5 years old, I just need to get in an application so I can delay his start

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Any updates OP?

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Dreamymama · 26/05/2025 10:22

Daisywoodstr · 25/05/2025 19:14

Any updates OP?

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Hi,

I didn’t mange to get the delayed application accepted so I sent him when he turned 4 in July and started school in Sept, tbh it wasn’t as bad as I thought! He really thrives in reception made friends he has learnt so much he’s already doing year 1 maths lol. He will be starting his last term of reception in 2 weeks 🥹 so it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be

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Daisywoodstr · 26/05/2025 14:15

Dreamymama · 26/05/2025 10:22

Hi,

I didn’t mange to get the delayed application accepted so I sent him when he turned 4 in July and started school in Sept, tbh it wasn’t as bad as I thought! He really thrives in reception made friends he has learnt so much he’s already doing year 1 maths lol. He will be starting his last term of reception in 2 weeks 🥹 so it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be

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Thanks for the update, it sounds like things have worked out well for him and he's where he needs to be, so difficult making these big decisions for our kids

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Dreamymama · 26/05/2025 19:15

Daisywoodstr · 26/05/2025 14:15

Thanks for the update, it sounds like things have worked out well for him and he's where he needs to be, so difficult making these big decisions for our kids

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Yes definitely! I was very reluctant in sending him to reception that early but it definitely worked out better for him :)

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sosadtoday1 · 25/08/2025 08:18

Great update. I find there’s this trend now to defer children and sometimes the child really isn’t ready but sometimes it’s the parents who see the child as too young to go and I’d be interested in the stories of those deferring doesn’t work out so positively for.

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Dreamymama · 26/08/2025 22:33

sosadtoday1 · 25/08/2025 08:18

Great update. I find there’s this trend now to defer children and sometimes the child really isn’t ready but sometimes it’s the parents who see the child as too young to go and I’d be interested in the stories of those deferring doesn’t work out so positively for.

Yes definitely! He was ready for reception but I think I wasn’t ready to send him in so early! Glad I did as he enjoyed it a lot starting year 1 in 1 week 🥹

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