What would you do?

[Babybrain26]

I raised some concerns with my sons pre school teacher as my son told me a few times his ‘best friend’ had pushed him and hit him. I raised the issue initially with the sen teacher (even though I asked for a meeting with his teacher) who stated the ‘best friend’ was a quiet boy and wouldn’t behave that way. My son was told that this boy was his ‘best friend’ by the sen teacher’s son (and therefore preschool teachers grandson).

When the boy hit him again, I asked for another meeting with the preschool teacher. When I met with her she blamed my son for hurting the other boy (first I’d heard of him hurting anyone), she criticised that he was a ‘follower’ not a ‘leader’ and I should be telling him who to be friends with. She also criticised that he had too wild an imagination and couldn’t focus on activities. This was all news to me and his last review in October went great. She also said there was no space in next years class for my younger son ( I’m hoping he doesn’t get placed there), As applications closed just the week before and said that my son should be like another ‘favourite’ in the class who is not asd.

the grandson has since told my son to tell me anything and that I’m not a nice person, but daddy is ok. After nursery he now says ‘I’m not talking to you’ if I ask him anything. He only told me this as I told him to tell me by tapping ‘yes’ or no on my hand if it was the grandson telling him this. He still plays with this boy who has hit him, despite me asking twice now for them to split them up. There are no other vacancies in any preschools near us but I’m worried about what damage the next 4 months could bring if I keep him there. We’re also awaiting to hear if he’ll be assessed as he has some asd traits (fully verbal though and high functioning etc.)

what on earth do I do?