worried ds wont fit in at pre-school......

[mum2sam]

hes due to start pre-school this week but im worried hes not going to fit in as hes a very hyer child with a short attention span.Having read this curriculum i just think oh my god! When i went to preschool we just used to play and have milk and biscuits. Hes not potty trained yet but they have said its ok although i feel hes behind. And hes not very independent when it comes to dressing/undressing all he wants to do is play. Hes been attending nursery for over a year and has been settled there but these last few sessions hes been suffering from separation anxiety and crying when im gone hes never been like thsi. I can only only put it down to his dad workning away although this isnt uncommon but perhaps with his age hes starting to realise more. Im in a pickle with what to do-im expecting a new baby in january too so i feel so guilty about my baby boy and to why he doesnt want to leave me. It just feels like it maybe alot of change for him.

How old is he?

Dont worry about the curriculum, they learn through play so ds will be having a whale of a time and learning his shapes at the same time!

Of course he will be anxious in the first few days there, but stick it out and he will be fine. If he is hyper then all that extra stimulation that preschool can give him will be perfect for him.

hes 3 in october but id say hes young for his age maybe its a gender thing plus hes first born. Its just seems alot-it says they encourage them to dress and undress but what if they cant or wont try

Same age as my dd!!! She is very bright (not just me being a proud mum) and has not got a clue about dressing and undressing!

Preschool will not push ds, just encourage, probably with small steps like scarves, hats and wellies, and if he still is struggling, they will probably encourage him to play in the dressing up corner more!

The chances are your ds will see his mates putting on their coats etc and will want to give it a go himself! Remember, he is still a baby really, and preschool know that too.

Try not to worry

thank you that has made me feel alot better i think it just freaked me out a bit especially as i still think of him as being my baby and it just seems that people expect alot from them these days.

My ds is 3 in October as well and due to start pre-school next week.

He's still in nappies and can't dress/undress himself yet.

I really wouldn't worry about it. I know my ds isn't particularly behind for his age, so there are bound to be plenty of others that are similar. They'll be teaching them these things while they are there, for what 2 years. There woudl be no point if they expected them to do it already.

Encouraging them to dress/undress is probably getting htem to start doing it, not be expert at when they start.

It's terrifying sending your baby off to pre-school (at least it is for me ) but there's probably nothing there they haven't seen before.

Anyway at least with mine he might not use a toilet, or dress/undress himself, but he's very good with scissors

thankyou how do you feel about your little one settling in? Im not sure whether to stay or not as he seems to be more anxious about me leaving him anywhere lately

I think I'm gonna see on the day.

He has become more clingy lately as well so I'll play it by ear.

I think he would be better if I dropped him adn ran, but not sure he will let me.

I wouldn't worry, I panicked about my ds3 and although his disabilities have become mroe severe / pronopunced over that time, he was taken completely into the heart of the Nursery environment, and the children at school (he's having a elayed start at Easter) completely adore him and love to see him.