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Moving child from preschool to day nursery

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Lissa7 · 14/02/2020 14:56

My DD (turned 3 in october) has been at a school preschool since January but I am considering moving her to a day nursery after half term. She had not attended any childcare previously.

My problems with preschool are mainly due to the time being spent with my DD. She is a very shy and timid child and the preschool have told me she is in the 2 to 3 year bracket for all areas. Now I know she is shy but if you make an effort to speak to her she has very good language skills, can count to twenty, knows all her colours and shapes etc and has been potty trained since a month before she turned 2. I feel like they are not making the effort with her as she is one of the more laid back, quieter children.

I was told at parents evening that she actively asks to do learning activities over free play but this was laughed at at the parents evening almost as if she was odd for wanting to learn.

They dont help her go to the toliet meaning she doesn't go, she is a very small 3 year old and cant get onto the small toilets without help. They do however have children in pull ups who they change so it's not like they are unable to help with tolieting.

She never gets a snack as she is one of the quieter ones she gets to choose last and all that is left is something she doesn't like, they normally do fruit or a savoury item, by the time they get to her the savoury item is usually gone and she gets upset she hasnt had toast for example.

There are a lot of children in the nursery approx 40/45 with minimum 4 teachers and they free flow between 2 rooms. I think she is struggling with the sheer volume of children louder than her and just feel maybe a say nursery with smaller ratios and less children would ease her in gentler and meet her needs better.

Am I worrying over nothing or would you move your child? She has until Sept 2021 before she starts school. We do not need childcare as I work nights and care for my other child during the week anyway, we sent her more to get her used to being away from us.

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SMaCM · 18/04/2020 09:41

This doesn't sound like a positive environment for her. I'd move her.

balalalala · 14/06/2020 22:56

Yes, I'd move her without a doubt.

WelcomeToGreenvale · 21/06/2020 21:13

What?! This is ridiculous! I can tell you for sure that at my preschool if the very last child at snack asks for toast and I just gave away the last slice, I'll make them toast. Because every child gets the same, there's no favouritism. Every child is asked individually if they want a snack (often several times to be certain)... no one should miss out because they're too shy to approach themselves.

All staff are aware of every child's toileting needs and will help however possible, whether that's taking a child every 20 minutes as they're in pants for the first time, or helping a child who can't access the toilets - actually, that in itself is ridiculous, we have steps and toilet seats so that even the smallest child can access the toilet by themselves if they're independent.

Move her, and make sure they know why you're moving her. I'm so sad on your little girl's behalf. I really hope you know that not all preschools are like this. The toileting thing in particular is abusive.

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