Advice on Splitting my daughters preschool year

[Crazycowlady2]

Hi, this is a long one so please bear with me. A bit of background info...me and my daughters father have split up nearly 12 months ago. He lives in Scotland and I now live over the border back in England. When we split up he instantly told me that I was to let him have 50/50 custody of her which I agreed to. So then one week later after the split I was to collect her from his residence and was greeted with a text message that same morning saying he had a court injunction on her and she wasn't to leave his residence and under no circumstance was I to try and collect her. So basically he was taking me to court. Anyways when we got to court (3 weeks later may I add!! I hadn't seen my daughter for 3 weeks! I was a train wreck considering I had her by my side every day since she was born!) he wanted full custody but we we granted 50:50 custody. So this means I get her on a Saturday one week until Wednesday and he gets wed until Sunday then I'd collect that Sunday until Wednesday and then he gets wed until sat... but now the issue is school. Where is she going to go to school? She obviously can't go to two schools but he is adamant that she will be splitting her pre school year. Do you think this is a good idea because I'm sceptical. I just think she should go to pre school where she is going to school.(this also hasn't been decided because obviously I want her to go to school with me. But he wants school with him)

Has anyone else ever had anything similar with their children and their fathers? Any advice will be greatly appreciated thanks xx

I think splitting her preschool year and I assume her doing Monday & Tuesday at your preschool and Thursday & Friday at his preschool will be fine, but clearly you need to come to an agreement about school.

I agree that splitting preschool is fine but I think you need to go back to court to agree where her primary residence and school will be (I’m saying court because I am assuming he isn’t agreeable to discussion otherwise).

This sounds horribly tough for you and I hope it can be agreed as best as possible for your daughter.

Have you thought about crossing the border again so she can go to one school?

Splitting preschool won’t be a problem for her, around half of the children in my child’s reception class didn’t come up from the attached preschool and they are doing great.

I think you will have to go back to court to decide on her primary residence though as this can’t continue once she needs to start school.

At the moment who receives child benefit, etc for her? Where is she registered for the GP? I assume everything isn’t split like that?

I agree splitting pre school will be fine although not ideal. I ended up in a similar situation due to no local full time nursery places although it was very unsettling if I'm honest initially.

School wise you need to go back to court if you can't agree.

I think splitting preschool is fine but you need to get back to court soon so you'll be able to look around appropriate schools. Is it impossible for you to live closer to each other so you could continue with shared custody at 1 school