My 3 year old not doing well in school

[Michelle38wales]

Hey there as it says my 3 year old is not doing well in school, had parents evening and they have told me he will play with other children or answer the teachers when they call him he doesn’t intract at all in school, the teacher told me there’s no red flags because he’s verbal, surely if my ds is not intractaing in school it’s an issue, I’ve told my hv and she’s referring him to speech therapist to see what his understand is like it’s not the best at home any ideas thanks

Will not play with other children I meant sorry x

Didn't know 3 year olds attended school 

Do you mean pre-school? Or are you in Wales?

I guess you do mean pre-school, given the topic you've posted in...

Does he have to go to that particular pre-school? Maybe a nursery environment might suit him better?

He's so little still and it's not "school" it should all be about play at that age.

I had to re read the title. I thought it must have ment 13.

Try not to worry, he will catch up in time. Hes very young.

Sounds like a typical 3 year old boy to me. Don't let them worry you. Give him time.

Does your little one mix with children his age anywhere else? How does he interact with others normally? It might just be the school which isn't a good fit but there are lots of things you can do as a parent to help him with social skills.

When is his birthday? If he's playing alongside other children, that sounds very much like parallel play, which is what you'd expect from 2-3 year olds and is an important part of their learning about social interaction. Has he just started preschool? He may well also be settling in and observing until he feels more comfortable. It often takes a term to settle in. How is he with other children outside school?

3 is so young! He shouldn't even be at school yet. In some countries they don't start til 7! My little dgs didn't take much notice of other children at 3. Now he's 5, he interacts fine. Don't push him, just let him settle slowly at his own pace.

How does he interact with children and adults outside school?

Sorry yes we are in Wales, he’s 4 in March he doesn’t play very well other children and gets mad and doesn’t wait till it’s his turn at all in anything and gets very angry with everything he screams all the time at the littlest thing he won’t ask me for help even tho he can’t do it will just scream I’ve tried telling ask mummy and I will help it’s like it just doesn’t sink in at all x

What did preschool say about his understanding? Do you have other concerns about his development?

They said he just doesn’t respond his his name nothing my heath vistor is on about having the school psychiatrist involed she’s phoning the school on Monday she come out to see max and seen what he was like x

It sounds as though getting outside professionals in to assess your son's development is a good idea. Of course it may be that there are no concerns, but it is worth getting things checked out now so any extra support he may need can be put in place.

Does he have any brothers or sisters?

Yes he does 3 of my boys are austic and I’ve a baby who’s 8 months but my friend come over with her children and we do go out as a family he does struggle with people he knows and don’t know x

It sounds like you have your hands full! I hope you have some support around. I hope things work out with your 3 year old.

Head over to the SN boards (you have to opt in on the customise page). There are some lovely people there.

Has he ever had his hearing tested? It may be worth ruling out if he hasn't.
My second eldest was similar to how you've described, particularly with the screaming as response to most things, in pure frustration. She was diagnosed with glue ear in both ears aged 2 because I knew something wasn't ok for her to feel so frustrated, so I pushed the health visitor for a referral and it was because she was practically in a world of her own not hearing or understanding anything around her.
We are in Wales too, she had grommets fitted and it was like it unlocked the world for her.
They don't like to fit them young as they usually grow out of glue ear, she is nearly 7 now and the surgery changed her life. OTT as that sounds, but she lost all her anger and frustration.

He does play his tablet and hears that fine so I don’t think it’s that tho it’s worth a check I agree, I do have my hands full no I’m on my own with the children x

Yes definitely a good idea to get hearing checked, as speech therapist will probably suggest this too.

Definitely worth getting hearing checked.

I’ve met a few people who’ve had hearing loss in just one ear, so they could hear fine if you were stood at their good side, but hardly anything if you were at their bad side.

His hearing may be fine, but it’s worth checking if only to rule that out.

Yeah worth rulling out definitely x

For what it's worth (I work in Pre School 2-4 year olds) your child sounds like the 2year olds I work with..
Development Matters is a very good guide as to where your. Child should be.

Max will be 4 in March he’s not 2 x