DD is 3 and a half. I work four days a week: during that time DD spends two days with my mother and two days with her lovely nanny. As she was getting too big for all her toddler classes, in April we started a couple of sessions a week with a private nursery, really just to give her a social life with peers.
From the start she has said that she doesn’t like it (in particular, she says that there are two teachers that she doesn’t like) and in the last two weeks she has cried inconsolably when dropped off. Today, it was so bad that her nanny brought her home. Nanny has been with us since DD was 10 months old and said that she has never seen her so upset. Worryingly, she soiled herself, which is totally out of character: she has been toilet trained for over a year and has never once had an accident. I feel dreadful about this - DD is a happy, resilient, sociable little girl and I feel so guilty at making her have such a miserable experience. I am minded not to send her back and take a break over the summer them try somewhere else. My DH thinks that I am pandering to her, but I think today was quite extreme and certainly not her ‘trying it on’. Any thoughts or opinions as to what you would do or have done in similar circumstances would be gratefully received. Thank you.