Kindy wants ds to make some other friends - I can't get too excited about this.

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Ds started kindy in Feb and has made one firm friend, a little girl 6 months older than him. They are inseperable, do everything together but include others too.

Kindy has said that they would like me and his friend's mum to talk to our children about having other friends.

TBH I can't see a problem, she plays with other children when ds is on holiday or off sick, he plays with other children when she is doing something ds can't do because of his allergies. But when they can they love to be together. They don't exclude anyone.

She will start school in August, ds not until 2008 and then at a different school. I think we should enjoy it while it lasts.

Sometimes I think you can't win, they are probably talking to someone else's parents about them not being able to make meaningful friendships.

I have a strong distaste for dp interfering too much in dc's friendships, in particular when they're going fine.

In defence of the kindergarten carers, perhaps other dc have wanted to join in with your dd and her friend and been rebuffed and that's the issue?

If you want to, you could try inviting a couple of other dc round now and again. Frankly I wouldn't worry in the least about it though. I certainly wouldn't tell the dc they need to make other friends too.

oops just seen you have a BOY! Sorry

Whenever I have been there there have been 4 or 5 children at an activity (free choice) and nobody is being excluded. It's just that at the next activity it will be another 2 or 3 other children but always ds and his friend.

I asked about excluding others and it's not that.

I think they think ds will die of loneliness when she leaves, but he will simply make another friend.

I agree with what you are saying. If they are not excluding other children and your DS plays with others when his best mate is not there then I can't see what the problem is..??

I feel so lucky with my DSs nursery. He is 3.4 and has been at nursery since last Sept. He has always played alone, although he is now very happy to play alongside others and join in group things (singing, snack time). The staff don't see a problem with this. He is happy, so they are too

The other mother is more worried than me, but she generally worries much more than me about absolutely everything. So I'm not worried about that

So ds came home and announced his new best friend was xxx (another girl). Seems they have been working on him too.

Do you mean that the nursery staff have been working on him ?

Wonder what the first little girl will think of his new best friend ?

....i'm possibly taking this a little too seriously, sorry.

Ds walked straight past new best friend today - couldn't remember her at all. So he is deffo saying what they want him to say whilst completely ignoring them. Like mother like son on this one!

Ha Ha, good for him !!!