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Not 100% with DD's nursery (sorry long)

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adath · 06/03/2007 12:33

DD was 3 in October last year and started at the local primary schools nursery in January and I am not toally happy with it.

I feel that the 4 children that started in January are not being fully included in all the activities. The class is split 3's and 4's which is not the problem. There are activities that the 4 year olds do on their own that they are taken elsewhere for but in those instancess the 3 year olds are still together but there has been some activities that were started last year that the 4 January starters are not being included in.

One example is a charity thing where they are decorating a plant pot, this was started in November last year when it was planted now they are decorating the pots my DD and another wee boy were upset at the fact they never had one. When I spoke to the nursery staff I was told that they would do one next year but they are 3 ffs they understand the here and now not last year and next year all they understand is they are not getting one as well.

I was informed that dd got a special colouring sheet to do instead but god she can colour in every day if she chooses to so it is not a special activity to her.

I just feel that this is one incident of several that the new starts are not being included in, the teacher also told me that they do not like them starting in January I can totally understand that but to actually say it to me. She also said that they start the curriculam in January that the others started in August then said oh but she does the same as the others so which is it then?????

I know I am not making much sense but I am so annoyed with them, there are things that dd gets upset about and is more than able to verbalise them to me and the teacher asked if I was sure that she was not just mucking me about and making things up just for y benefit, well yes she does sometimes but I know my daughter and know when she is playing me and genuinely upset.

I just don't know what to do, I don't think anymore that this nursery is for us really, I think we are totally on a different page really, I don't think they are doing all they can to support the children in january through this at all and they are so arsey when you bring up an issue one teacher kept saying to the other oh watch your time we need to get on blah blah. I felt like having a problem with them was a total inconvenience to them.

And not only that they are all so blinking glam it is a fashion show in there not one of them can get down and actually play with the children there is never a mascara smudge or hair out of place.
Sorry this is really long what do I do? I don't want her to be spending her time their but I don't want to confuse her and pull her out after easter.

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lazymoo · 06/03/2007 14:20

Go look at all the other nursery's in your catchment area, you are bound to find one you like, also talk to friends and find out which would be their nursery of choice, if you find a nursery that you feel is the right one for your DD send her there. On one hand at three they are very resilient, and adaptable to change but could be upset in the short term, on the other your DD could be upset and confused for 18 - 24 months in your present nursery. Oh and as for the pot, I think they are about £2.00 for a clay pot in a DIY/Nursery shop why don't you make this your spring project, Get DD to paint it and you paint over it with watered down PVA glue, this makes the paint less likely to come of. Then plant something like a Sunflower which is quick growing and if after you have replanted your sunflower in the Garden you could keep the pot for things like keys.

adath · 06/03/2007 15:14

The thing is I live in a small towwn in the highlands this is the ONLY school/nursery in my catchment area. I would have to look at schools outiwth and then there is no guarentee of a place.
I think I will grow our own, but I did say to the teacher I would buy one and she could take it in to do it but the teacher has decided to go out and buy some for the 4 that didn't get it.

The reasons that I am not happy seem petty alone but when I lump them together it becomes a big issue and just don't think they are taking on anything I am saying.

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lazymoo · 08/03/2007 01:29

Troubling really, do you work? I ask, because if you don't what about taking her out until sept, then she would be at the start of the curriculum, (although the nursery sounds as if it talks bullocks to me) other wise i am fresh out of ideas. sorry.

twentypence · 08/03/2007 02:15

Life isn't always fair, if you pull her out of nursery over a plant think of the message you are sending to her.

"If I get upset mummy will take me out and then I won't have to go any more".

I am not saying she is playing you - but that she will be learning (indirectly)how to play you in the future.

So she doesn't have a plant or a pot, but she will next year - this is how she learns to wait.

They are not out to get you.

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