How much can/should you act on what your 3-year-old says?

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Alarm bells ringing about ds's pre-school. He's really tired, which I expected, but somehow has lost some of his sparkle and 'ds'-ness. Says he doesn't like it and that boy X is always pushing him. DS is tall and IMO articulate for his age, but therefore can often give the impression of coping/understanding more than he is actually able to do - v tiring and perhaps bewildering for him.

I've decided to drop him from 5 days to 3 - starting him on 5 days was a mistake but there you go, it's done now. I'm going to try and have a chat to the teachers today. I'm considering pulling him out altogether, but he did get really bored before starting.

Oh dear, just having the mum wobbles I suppose.

I definitely think you should tlk to the staff. If my dd raised this issue more than once, I would act on it by seeing whether the pre-school have a point of view on the pushing/relationships with other children.

My dd started at 2.5 at pre-school, 2 sessions a week. She is now 3.5 and goes for one full day and 2 mornings. And she's tired too, but enjoys it. I would definitely consider dropping some sessions to give your ds a bit of down time - it seems pretty full-on to me.

Good luck!

talk to the staff, but my dd constantly tells me things which are utterly untrue! if he's tired, you can cut down his time there - my dd is shattered by fri night

How long has he been going for? I would talk to the staff first and see what the issue if any i, because if it is a problem with one person only it would be a shame to pull him out altogether if it can be dealt with.
DD started at nursery just after christmas and after the firs week was saying she did not want to go anymore and I did consider finding out if she really was unhappy there and chat to the staff but I never needed to as she was off ill for a couple of days and when she went back she was soooo excited and happy to be going back. I realised that after the first exictment had died down and she was going reguarly it stopped being a novelty and she was gettin tired as she was still not in the new routine yet.

My dd has a problem with one of her friends at pre-school. If I hadn't already made friends with her mum on the walk everyday I might have been worried too. But I now know this little girl and it's just because she's very huggy and my DD doesn't like it - mix of personal space invasion and the fact that 50% of the time they fall over. DD loves playing with her but often gets confused about it all, says she's not her friend anymore etc then runs off to play with her.

my ds2 is 3 and at pre-school 4 times a week. He often says 'xx hit me' or 'xx pushed me' when i pick him up - but on questioning it wasn't actually that day it was 'a long time ago'. When he first said it I did speak to the teachers straight away and he had been pushed by the boy, and they tell me now if there has been an incident.
I really would talk to the staff first.

I definitely think you should talk to staff and ask if they have seen any unwanted behaviour. In our setting we continually go over the rules of pushing, and hurting of other children. Staff are usually very approachable and will help you with your anxieties.