I want to share my recent experiences at Lanterns nursery E14 on the Isle of Dogs, because I don’t want other parents to feel like I’ve felt.
The director told me that my son 2-year-old was a bully and that she knew how to handle it because her brother used to beat his wife up (genuinely).
It is unacceptable to me that the director believes that her experiences with other adults make her the authority on childcare practices. I tried to find out what childcare qualifications are held by her and the staff and they told me this information is confidential. I think, as they’re not willing to share this information, it shows that there is likely very little expertise or training available to support the staff. I think this is why they so often resort to shouting and mishandling the children. It seems to me that the director is extremely misinformed and is not seeking to educate herself. For example, she told me that she used to teach a dance student who bit her, until she bit her back, which ‘worked’ to stop her biting! This made me realise how deep the culture of mishandling is in this nursery.
Some of the staff are great but I think it’s only possible to be so good within a culture of fear and intimidation which stems from the director. I’ve often thought that the staff seem scared of the director.
Some of the staff are not at all curious about how to support children. I frequently had to prompt them to greet my child in the morning. When my son got a deep bruise from a nappy change the director told me that this long-term member of staff was ‘a bit old-school’ and didn’t think she needed to note down every bump. The bruise took two weeks to heal and he told me he was sad during nappy changes.
For any other parent whose child has been branded bad or naughty by this nursery, please know your child is not bad. It is just that the management at this nursery have very little if any knowledge or understanding of child development and so can not respond confidently to normal toddler behaviour. The director actually said to me that one of her long-term staff is a bit aggressive but she trusts her completely because she’s very committed to the job. So, it appears that she finds it ok for her staff to be aggressive, but if a child displays behaviour she doesn’t like then she brands them as a bully.
A couple of other problems -
At one point there was a radiator leak and the nursery did not close. The smell of old wet carpets was very strong. They did not replace the carpets but instead waited for them to dry. I had to take time off work as I couldn’t leave my son next to those wet carpets. They scheduled the ‘clean-up’ for a week afterwards. I still can’t understand why they didn’t use their insurance money to replace the wet smelly carpets.
Finally, their fee structure and contract are written in a vety confusing way to support the interests of the director making money out of parents, and many previous customers have never got their deposit back.