Changing preschools twice, sensitive shy child

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We currently have DS in nursery two full days but I'm giving up work so we can't afford to keep him there. He's well settled there and it's good, but very expensive and I'm not sure how much 'education' he's getting as opposed to childcare.

So we have a place at an excellent preschool (with a two year waiting list!) from Sept. This will be 4 mornings and cost us nothing. BUT we are moving house and town in December, so he will have to move yet again for January, not found a preschool yet but there will be something.

He is shy and easily overwhelmed, he's better now he's a little older (3.5) but I'm so worried about so much chopping and changing and how it might negatively affect his confidence.

We could keep him at his current nursery until the move but only for two afternoons (2-6pm) at a cost of £200 a month, and although he would get socialisation etc, it's not a very productive time of day to say the least, the last hour is really dead time and he would be far too tired to benefit much, the outstanding preschool would suit him so much better.

Would appreciate any experience of similar situations?

If he's 3 and a half, he should be receiving his 15 hours free. Could he stay at his current nursery and just use his funded hours until January?

They only offer two sessions 3-6pm funded unless you're paying for full day or half day sessions. So we are claiming funding but the top ups come to £200 a month for 2-6pm twice a week. Ridiculous but nothing we can do. 3-6 isn't worth our while at all.

(We currently pay £300 for 2 full days per month)

It's moot though. Nurseries have to do what they have to do, they're a good private nursery but hardly rolling in it.

Sorry for multiple posts - we would do 3 mornings there if we could but there is a huge waiting list (even though it would require top ups) so afternoons is our only option, and the hours are just rubbish.

Your baby is just 3.5 years old, you should choose a preschool that have a supportive and a caring staff. I know a preschool its name is Montclare School but it’s located in New York, I advise you to go for it if you are living nearby New York.

What a random post! I doubt the OP is going to move continents......

Well on the off chance you don't want to move to New York OP I think you should move him to the outstanding pre-school. Children are more robust than we think but you should explain what's happening to him as each change comes up.

Dd was at one nursery and then had to move to another with little notice due to an aborted house move. She settled easily and is relatively sensitive and within weeks had a new baby brother to deal with too. We've now moved again and she'll go to another nursery very soon. Lots of reassurance and explanations have made it ok for her.