Is this appropriate?

[RavvyK]

Over the last week my DS has had a few crying moments. At home, this generally occurs when something happens which he doesn't like. In these instances we talk to him and he generally calms down. At nursery the sentiment appears to be that he's having 'meltdowns'. In addition, the nursery carer described him as being a "strange little thing". Is this appropriate? Should I take issue with this?

Firstly, it is perfectly possible that what he is doing in Nursery is different from what he is doing at home.
Secondly, If an Early Years Professional, who works with children of your ds's age every day is concerned about him, then I would be asking for more detail, and how concerned she was etc., rather than worrying too much about the if turn of phrase she used was the best choice of language.

Nurseries are used to children getting a bit upset - when they are tired, or when carer leaves, or when they are a bit under the weather, or when they have been told 'no' , etc.,etc.. If they are saying these are 'meltdowns', then it is likely to be more than that, and I would want to investigate that further.

It is not only appropriate, but compulsory for Nursery staff to talk with parents about any concerns they have about the children in their care.

I obviously don't know your child or know the member of staff, but going on what you say, the issue isn't if you like the words she used, so much as 'how can I help him'.

Agreed. Although the nursery carer provided no further information or advice. Her statement was made in a flippant manner and this is what I am querying.

Separately my ds is actually recognised by the nursery as being a "compliant child".

In addition as I said originally there are moments when he kicks off and based on all complete feedback received to date these moments can be managed, if managed correctly.

Quite frankly my faith in the nursery carer is not at the level you suggest. Hence this post for thoughts...