i need advice on my child's nursery issues!

[jas78]

My son has started an outstanding nursery this year (must i add he is very happy there). all the staff members are nice except for one. she gives me negative feedback about my child constantly in a very loud manner while my kid is still in the room. i know my son is a little bit spirited at times but the picture she paints that he is monster. his key worker however couldn't praise him hard enough. the latest incident was on monday. she ranted on and on about him. I tried to use humour to diffuse the stiuation and said perhaps she should try given a minute time out when is being naughty etc...( which i suggested before). which she seemed to have heard and she then made a remark about my parenting skill of my little girl. her exact words were control your daughter, she is disturbing the other kids (my daughter had taken advantage of our conversation and had ran and sat on an activity table). I don't know what to do? should i remove him all together from the nursery? should i have a word with the nursery manager about it? it's really tricky because i don't want her to hold my future complaint about her against my son!

What do you expect the nursery manager to do?
Some people ate just a bit more blunt than others
Doesn't mean they wont care for your child well
They might actually be better at caring for children than the person who is all singing and all dancing with the parents
I would just accept that we are all different and you can't expect to like everyone
You do have to get along with everyone though so I can't think what you would achieve by complaining
Can you not talk to your child's key person instead when you pick up and bypass this other person?
I think you are going to have to grow a thicker skin. Sometimes people will say thongs about your DC that you don't like.

Does she have a point? Does your child display challenging behaviour at nursery? I would ask for a meeting with your child's key worker together with this nursery worker to discuss your child's behaviour at nursery.

His key worker is very happy about my son. She only said he does snatch toys from time to time. i told her to give him time out.

anyhow this message is a little outdated. i spoke to his keyworker who is also a nursery manager since. she then spoke to the nursery nurse. nursery nurse apologised since. so case closed, fingers cross!

'I tried to use humour to diffuse the stiuation and said perhaps she should try given a minute time out when is being naughty etc...( which i suggested before). which she seemed to have heardand she then made a remark about my parenting skill'

I'm glad you've had an apology and hope this improves in the future. On that thought when I read the above I took from that that you were taking to someone else about the blunt nursery nurse. And the blunt nursery nurse overheard you taking about her. Have I got that right? If so then I'm going to point out the obvious and suggest that bitching about people behind their backs isn't going to help the situation!

Also, I find its best to show them that you're taking the situation seriously. Don't just try to brush it off or laugh it off, actually listen to them and discuss it. Remember that you're not the one who sees your DSs behaviour at nursery. There could be an element of truth in what's being said.

nope sorry! this was a typing error. I meant which she seemed not have heard! still the same nursery nurse.

her tone was ridiculous! we are talking about a very normal three years old who at times can be a little boisterous! no one else in the nursery share her jaded view of my child!

Any nursery worker making comments like 'control your daughter' is a crap nursery worker IMO who is in the wrong job.

And criticising your son in his earshot is also completely unacceptable. I think she sounds dreadful. She wouldn't last two minutes in ds's nursery. The manager would kick her out on her arse.