tutoring for 3-4 year old

[lovelymummy2014]

Previously worried my LO would need tutoring, I was in hospital for a few years of LO's early life with aggressive cancer treatment so wasn't around as much as I could have been due to ill health. Invariably couldn't be around as much as I would have wanted but trying to make up for lost time now that I am in remission.

LO can recognise some letters in alphabet, write first name, count to 20, but can be very shy in social situations and can be slow at talking in brand new situations.. Better at numbers than letters so can't read yet. Not a confident talker at first but if comfortable with the person, talking is fine.

Worried that LO was behind due to other children being much more verbally advanced.

At new school LO seems to be very withdrawn and losing skills gained at previous nursery/home as didn't seem to gel with staff and would not want to go to school anymore, crying, losing toilet training skills, not talking to teachers etc. LO had always liked nursery, playgroup, other teachers from previous settings so not sure why.. LO crying and saying teachers are mean at new school.

After feedback from mumsnet decide does not need tutoring just maybe a different school environment perhaps. Will trust my instincts and LOs opinion (wants to go to a different school).

thank you for your help.

Tutoring=pressure
It is vital to reduce this and keep pressure to a minimum... at all ages, I feel.
Kids are kids and this society we live in constantly has mums and dads worried that their kids are underachievers.
Your LO sounds totally normal. There is lots of anxiety in relation to starting nursery and school and this is so normal. Unfortunately, it is not always honoured and acknowledged. I have been through this with both my kids: severe anxiety in nursery. By reception, it all totally righted itself.

Have you considered having LO's hearing checked? My DD became very isolated, tearful, and withdrawn last year at nursery (this is common with or without any problems. Contrary to popular belief, kids this age tend not to be nearly as social as we hope for them to be and often play alone). Her anxiety was through the roof. From September to April she cried every single day when I left her. The first six months, she bonded with no one and didn't connect with the nursery. Her speech was behind and she regressed in many ways. A friend of mind whose son is partially deaf advised me to have her hearing checked. She failed the test due to severe glue ear which resolved itself. But she had been going around for God knows how long, unable to hear. And I hadn't a clue. But I could almost clock the moment it began to get better. In the Spring, DD came out of herself, made loads of friends, and skipped through the nursery doors each day. When she was reviewed at the hospital, the glue ear had cleared and her hearing is now perfect. I do have to watch this every winter though until she well and truly outgrows it.

This could be your problem, or you LO could just be struggling with anxiety. In this case, I would seriously consider moving LO to another nursery. Go with your gut.
I really hope you remain on a great path of wellness. You have been through so much and I am in awe of your ability to remain so strong and committed to the struggles of parenthood in the face of challenging health issues. Sending you very best wishes.

Sounds normal and maybe make an appt to have a chat with teacher? I agree on the hearing too - we are suffers with glue ear too! Is this the school where you hope she will go into reception? Banish thoughts of a tutor and help her settle and grow without added pressure