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Preschool education

Get advice from other Mumsnetters to find the best nursery for your child on our Preschool forum.

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Well...I kno wfor a fact that you're all going to scowl at me for this but TBH I don't care.....

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/09/2006 10:02

it's about ds3 and nursery.

He's not especially enjoying it, well he does if I stay which I'm not going to do.

I've been called to collect him early each time he's been.

Today I have switched my phone off and won't be answering the phone until he's been there for a long enough time for them to work with him and bring him round to playing.

I know thats shite parenting but ds1 did the same and we never had to go and collect him, I think they are taking the piss by phoning after 50 minutes to say they can't do anything.

Too bad...it's your job...encourage him...don'[t just sit him on your knee and ignore all the paints, playdoh, sand, water etc etc all around...encourage him to play.

There...so shoot me.

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/09/2006 10:35

I have to say when I have been to collect him (or DH) we've walked in and he's not crying then, always sitting in a lap.

also on 2 occaisions when we've arrived we walked through the door and they've siad "Ohh he's calmed down quite abit now"

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/09/2006 10:36

pnone back on now nabs3.

we've reached the longest time he's stayed now.....

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Bramshott · 21/09/2006 10:36

Yes, sorry, the calpol comment was probabl a bit flippant!

Pinotmum · 21/09/2006 10:39

Bramshott - flippant is fine, I like flippant but my grammer is appalling "should of" . Meant "should have" obviously - please forgive me

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/09/2006 11:03

1.5 hours now....

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/09/2006 11:06

on the phone to them now.....

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/09/2006 11:08

Ohhh...FFS.

He's not going back.

They said he's not mature enough!!

He's 3YR old FFS...of course he's not mature.

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NotAnOtter · 21/09/2006 11:09

well??

Gobbledigook · 21/09/2006 11:10

WTF? What sort of nursery is this?

Gobbledigook · 21/09/2006 11:10

Ds2 has just started and he's only just 2! I doubt he's any more mature than your ds!

NotAnOtter · 21/09/2006 11:11

they sound ridiculous - they cannot possibly make judgments about him by one week into term!

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/09/2006 11:11

I'ma sooooooooooo pissed off it's untrue.

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aragon · 21/09/2006 11:13

You need a different nursery and a few sessions where you stay with him for decreasing amounts of time.

Eventually he'll work out that it's a safe and happy place to be.

Polgara2 · 21/09/2006 11:16

What is he like if you leave him anywhere else anytime? Could it be the nursery he doesn't like?
Have to admit I wouldn't be happy if my child was continuously upset for this long. Both my dd's sensitive souls and took them ages to stop crying whenever I left them, but as long as they settled enough after a short it was ok. DD2 never really settled at playgroup - it just didn't suit her or she didn't suit them not sure which!! Does he need to go?

sugarfree · 21/09/2006 11:18

Ds3 is at his 3rd session of pre-school this morning and I've just had them on the phone to say he's been a bit weepy,did I want to collect?I explained that he'd watched DS2 having a meltdown at the school gate which resulted in ds2 and I both being in floods of tears() and the lovely woman said "Aah,leave him here then if you're happy and we'll call back if there's a problem"
Don't know what yours are on about,aren't they supposed to be immature at nearly 3.

I'm finding mothering very hard this week.

Pinotmum · 21/09/2006 11:27

They don't sound too experienced. Pre-schools can be run with only 50% qualified staff so perhaps there's a bit of "dead wood" about. Some of the woman on my Pre-school course thought sitting down all session doing play dough with a child on their knee WAS the job!! Your ds may be better elsewhere.

NAB3 · 21/09/2006 16:02

Wrong wrong wrong but then I have a downer on playschools, etc who can't look after children properly having had to remove my daughter from one. My son went there and was fine. My DD is a completely different child and they just couldn't handle her. She is much more settled in her new nursery and I feel the staff are willing to listen to what we say as we know her better than anyone. Saying a 3 year old is not mature enough for nursery sounds to me that he is more of a challenge for whatever reason and they can't be bothered with it.

threebob · 21/09/2006 20:03

LTH - Children and different and it may be that he isn't ready. He is only 3.

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/09/2006 20:06

he's not going back threebob, I started another thread about it all....

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julienetmum · 21/09/2006 20:36

Is it really that bad to turn your phone off.

I am virtually always oncontactable by phone, it is usually out of charge or like today I just forgot to take it with me. I figure in a real emergency they would call my parents at work (they are down as a contact)

Perhaps better than turning the phone totally off would be to let an answerohone oick a messgage up. Then if they leave a he is crying again messgae you just ignore it.

codwiggle · 21/09/2006 20:36

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LieselVonTrapp · 21/09/2006 21:29

PMSL

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