Preschool key workers with piercings and tattoos, I am not happy

[tweety2000]

My 3 y old will be starting preschool in September. We had a tester day today, but I was a bit unhappy to see few key workers with facial piercings, tongue piercing, and tattooed across the whole length of one of her leg (she was wearing short shorts). Am I just too old and not able to follow the modern times and accept that's its fine, or I am right to be concerned about this? To me it speaks a lot about the standards of the stuff that is beign employed.
I am not against them having those things but I am not keen of them showcasing it to preschoolers.

Would I sound unreasonable if I pointed this to a manager of preschool, or it would be unreasonable of me?

I wouldn't have a huge issue with it as long as they are good at their jobs. And I am old. YABU.

I too think there are certain standards of dress for work - 'short shorts' doesn't sound particularly appropriate to me.

hang on. you think you should get a say in what other people look like? really? do you think the people you work with should be entitled to dictate that you should or shouldn't wear make-up or a bracelet or have your hair coloured?

YABU.

My DD's key worker has a multiple visible piercings and she is amazing with my DD. She always looks smart and acts professionally.

It's freedom of expression. Personally I'm not a fan of piercings and tatts but each to their own.

You're just too old and not able to follow the modern times. Although there's a good chance that you're younger than me, so I'll amend that to "you're just not able to follow the modern times".

this isn't AIBU

I am not a fan of tattoos at all (would never have one, really happy dh agrees with me)
BUT
I love the fact that teachers/pre-school workers/nurses etc etc break the stereotype
I used to teach alongside a punk teacher (bright pink spiky hair, black goth clothes etc) It was brilliant for the kids to see that anyone could teach, it created a bridge between 'normal' people and professionals. It was great for challenging the kids ideas of what a punk/goth person should be like.

YABU

But the OP asked if she was being unreasonable

I am a boring old dinosaur and don't find tattoos and multiple piercings attractive at all.

Would it bother me? No, not in the slightest

In a similar vein, last week, we interviewed health care assistants, to work with the elderly. Near the end of the day, a young woman walked in, with tattoos galore, and a few piercings. I felt the disapproval from my colleague across the room.
That girl did the best interview of the day, by a country mile, and her passion shone through.
My colleague was the first to say she would get the job.

Never judge a book by its cover...

I would be pleased my DC was being taught by diverse people. Our nurse (male) when DD banged her head was covered in tattoos and DD loved them....he had clear studs in his pierced bits too. He said a lot of DC are fascinated by the tats and they're good for distraction! DD picked out her faves while he checked her temp etc.

"To me it speaks alot about the standard of stuff being employed"

Stuff i think you mean people!!!!

Tattoo's and piercings don't affect peoples abilities to do a job. However if this is what you believe and you want your children to be brought up judging people by their appearance then simply don't send them to that nursery.

In my line of work we have to sign a policy to say that we will cover all tattoos and take out facial piercings.

I don't mind as I understand that I work in a professional environment and some clients do not think piercings/tattoos are acceptable.

Seriously, worry more about the standards of care rather than appearances. Would you object to someone with a facial disfigurement? Or a large birthmark? Of course you wouldn't, same goes for piercings and tattoos.

I don't like them much either. I wouldn't say anything because you can't, but I do think to myself that they look unprofessional in some work arenas, no matter how lovely or competant the person.

YABU.

OP, if the key work has loops / rings as part of her piercing jewellery, like this I'd have concerns about it in terms of children pulling it and it being unsafe.

If this isn't the case, I'd have more concern about the short shorts, as I wouldn't see them as professional / work wear - the staff at DS's nursery wear a uniform which includes full length trousers.

halestone, I think she meant staff but mis-typed......

Seriously? What are you afraid of?

I have several tattoos and several piercings, including one in my tongue. I've managed to raise 2 children to teenage years (so far) with another one on the way. I am also in sole charge of my 20 month-old nephew today. I probably shouldn't be because of the piercings and tattoos, but his mum had to work. She also has piercings (inc tongue) and several tattoos, so I have no idea how she manages.

You are absolutely being unreasonable.

Facial piercings turn my stomach.

Multiple ears piercings and tiny nose studs ok.

But tongue and eyebrow, ear stretchers and other random holes Just no!!!

Tattoos are fine if they aren't skulls or the grim reaper.

I'm sure if your 3 year old asked for a tattoo or piercing as a result of it being "showcased" to him/her I am sure you will manage to refuse such a request.

Other than that, what exactly is the nature of your concerns? What do you think will happen to your 3yo as a result of seeing a piercing? How do you plan to avoid this in everyday life?

What would you like the preschool manager to do?

FFS. YABU

You are being rediculous if this isn't a wind up.

In most nurseries most of the childen have tattoos, albeit temporary
and many of them have piercings, i.e earrings
Get over yourself op.

I work with children and have four tattoos. Does that
make me below standard? YABU Get that stick out your arse!