Starting a preschool and toliet trained

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ds2 is starting a preschool in September. All fine. But they want him to be toilet trained - getting dicey. What do they mean by this?

Do they mean is entirely independent and will ask to go to the loo whenever he needs it or

Do they mean if you take regularly he'll be fine (99%) of the time

Which country are you in ? In england they cannot enforce

They can't enforce it, but they can ask that you do.

I think out of nappies and using the toilet with reminders will be fine for a 2-3 year old.

Britain. He's 3.5 my the way, sorry I forgot to mention that.

AFAIK they can ask that children are toilet trained but cannot insist that children are toilet trained. Not least because it would be discriminatory for those with additional needs.

An occasional accident is par for the course and they do regularly take them to the toilet/prompt them to go at our preschool. Both mine started in nappies (they started at 2 and 2.9 but became trained within 3-6m) and preschool were fine with it, even with cloth nappies

They say 'like' but a lot won't be fully ready. I think they mean that it would be easier of they were able to say when they need to go. ds was still in nappies when he started.

I know that when mine started at age 3, they expected them to be trained and to ask to go although obv they will prompt if the child is showing the signs!! they expect the odd accident but in my experience in Scotland anyway, the will not take a child in nappies or pull ups.

Thanks a lot for reassuring me. I realise I've got a month or so left, it is just that he's been a work in progress for a while now.

if it's any help, we did the "toilet training in a day" thing and they went from not trained in the slightest to occaisional accident within a day or so...we didn't start until they were just about 3 (summer hols before nursery started)

amck. Is that something I can do if he's been "toliet trained" for a while now? I'd love to find something to sort this.

don't see why not - you need a day of peace in the house - a doll that wees, plenty of large pants and lots of drinks and sweeties :o)

we adapted it a bit to leave out the potty emptying and to include hand washing instead.

This is what we used:

www.amazon.co.uk/Toilet-Training-Less-Than-Day/dp/0671693808

Thank you so much, I'll look into that.

the book is a bit old fashioned (unless they have updated it) and it can get a bit monotonous, but it worked for us and both our boys.

We did it 1 on 1 and stayed in the kitchen with no tv etc for the full morning and then introduced some distractions in the afternoon to ensure that he would still go to the toliet without relapsing.

So what you are saying. Is absolutely no mumsnetting in the other room?

lol yeah - though I didn't do computers etc then. Strangely my OH looked after the boys full time while I worked but it was apparantly my job to train them on the weekend even though he was the one with the same equipment! he did take the other child out the way for the day though.