daughter not settling into preschool. what can I do? any advice?

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my 2 year old has just started preschool. 3 mornings from 9 to 12...

she is not settling in well. First day was fine. But since then I have been called over there and yesterday she wouldn't let me leave the room. I am really not precious with her and would like to just leave her, but the staff keep calling me saying that she wouldn't calm down. When I get there however she is calm and playing?!

I have tried talking to my daughter. She says she likes it and that she won't cry...but then she does. Should I give her her favourite bunny to take? Should I just keep talking to her? Any advice?

do you need the nursery for childcare? If, not then it might be worth taking her out and trying again when she is a bit older. Neither of mine went until they got their funded sessions at age 3

When my just turned 2 year old started he took his dummy and bear (I know some people won't agree with this). The dummy he really only had when he went to sleep but it just gave him a bit of comfort.

He did 2 mornings a week and by the 3rd week (5th or 6th session) he was running in.

I need the nursery for me! I also have a newborn and I need a few hours break! And to do some work from home. Also I have been on waiting lists for years, and if I take her out I will lose my spot for when she is 3.

My daughter (3 yesterday) has been going to playgroup 2 mornings a week since mid Jan. The first week she went in without a problem and played happily. The second week she began to get teary by midmorning. The next week was half term and then when they went back she again got teary partway through the morning. Then one morning she cried as I left. I told them I'd leave her because she'd settle and be fine. She cried and cried till she was sick.

Since then I've been going with her and staying with her. She won't let me leave the room without screaming (even if I'm just popping to the toilet!) It's getting ridiculous. However, I have nowhere I need to be, so I'm willing to keep going with her for a while and just keep hoping and praying that she'll settle again.

My friends think I'm a sap and that she's playing me, but she gets absolutely hysterical even if I go for a minute. We will be trying to build up my time out of the room... I think she does have some sensory issues though and also has physical disability which doesn't help - it means she gets very tired very quickly. Oh it's all so difficult! Why don't children come with instructions?!

Mine has been in Nursery since she was 9 mo and she is 2.3yrs and she STILL cries when I drop her off and goes 4 days a week . When DH drops her off she kisses hims and waves bye!
She will not walk into the room, I have to carry her but the girls are great, she has her dummy and Anne the Elephant toy, so hell yeah give her whatever makes her feel comforted. Ask the Nursery staff to take her outside, or show her something out the window, maybe something that isn't just the ususal paints or books. My Nursery are masters at distraction and it only takes her about 10 or 15 mins to calm down. I am surprised they Nursery call you because she won't calm down. Is worth perhaps asking them NOT to call you for maybe a few days unless it is an emergency or she is sick. The knowledge that she is upset is not doing you any good, and whilst DD is in transition, do you need this added stress?

Or maybe you could just go to Nursey, stay in the office or whatever, when they call but leave without DD seeing you IF she is indeed calm and playing?
Either way, she will get used it it, wether she maybe a Player like my monkey or an angel who dances into the class. Despite the crocodile tears mine gives me, she enjoys it immensely and loves playing with others and Nursey gives her much more fun things to do during the day than I could ever do!!