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kmdwestyorks · 16/04/2012 12:14

I am aware i'm probably being very much a PFB type mum here but.....

DD's (3.1years) best friend is not the best influence on her and while i've got some strategies up my sleeve, i'm not sure about the best option going forward

DD and BF were together in childcare and it's not a new relationship but the problem seems to have arisen since the move to pre-school. Same site, same staff.

BF is not toilet trained and just goes in her pull ups. we've just had two weeks of retraining DD even though she'd been dry for the best part of 12 months prior to that and is usually dry at night.

DD was getting agressive and impolite, always with the rationale "but BF does..." and we've had lots of conversations along the lines of just because BF does/says this doesn't mean you can...

we're trying really hard not to be nasty about BF as she's only a little girl herself and DD has to learn personal responsibility but as time goes on we're getting more concerned that DD is increasingly isolated from other friendships (at the moment she has other friends, BF doesn't have any other friends) but i can't help noticing the lack of invites DD has to parties and play dates or the sudden shyness when i drop her off (the other kids are all nice to her and really sweet, making me think DD is still liked)

has anyone else any experiences similar to this and ideas for getting past it to a more balanced friendship and friendship circle?

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mum23girlys · 16/04/2012 12:27

Hi, could you ask the preschool if they could move your dd into a different group within the same class. Chances are the teachers are aware of the situation already if the other girl doesn't really have any other friends.

Hope you get the situation sorted. One of my dds made a friend at nursery and her behaviour at home really deteriorated. Thankfully this girl was a year older and left to go to school. By the time my dd started primary 1 in August she'd forgotten who the girl was and hasn't started back up the friendship Grin

kmdwestyorks · 16/04/2012 13:30

Thanks mum23. I'm not sure that there is a different and suitable group she can go to but i'll certainly follow that up

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welovesausagedogs · 17/04/2012 22:31

Generally teachers have a way of dealing with this and they try to stop children forming such strong friendship, is there no way they could be in different classes, or along with shared nursery days also spend some time at nursery on a different day to her BF.

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