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Preschool education

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Was your child fully toilet trained at just turned3yrs?-starting nursery

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FelixCited · 15/04/2012 19:36

Hi, my child is 3 next month and starts nursery school next week.
They state the child must be fully able to go to the loo unaided,
clothes down, wipe, wash hands etc. No assistance will be given.

So I will be doing another crash course on wiping and pulling up pants.

(we are overseas- this is an independent school which makes its own rules)

So my question is, could your just turned 3yr old manage to go to the loo completely unaided?

Is my child a late starter ?

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welovesausagedogs · 17/04/2012 22:33

At my sons nursery they require children to be toilet trained, wear pants, be able to wipe their own bottom after a poo before they enroll. My son was 2 years and 6 months when he started in class one in september, so we potty trained him over the summer.

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FelixCited · 18/04/2012 23:06

Bum wipe boot camp continues!
Thanks for your input everyone

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fhutts · 24/04/2012 21:02

my DH is 40 and he still has skidders it'll all work out soon enough, hard as it seems try to relax and you know that ALL babes ar different so who defines normal

Pyrrah · 25/04/2012 18:02

DD will be 3 in 4 weeks, she utterly refuses to have anything to do with potty-training. She is perfectly capable but doesn't want to and wild-horses will not move her on it.

I don't want a fight so I'm just leaving well alone and her current nursery is attempting gentle encouragement.

There is no rule that they need to be out of nappies any more - several teachers have told me that frankly they'd rather deal with wet nappies than endless accidents...

Pipsqueak99 · 30/04/2012 09:51

Nope. My DS was 3.5 when I toilet trained him.
I do think expecting such independent toileting from all children at sucj a young age is wrong. They will be ready when they are ready and all this does is cause a lot of stress and angst for both the parent and child of those children who are not ready to be toilet trained until later.

FWIW my son is now 4 and has only just started to wipe his bottom independently (and badly!). He still needs supervision with bottom wiping after he has done a poo.

cazboldy · 30/04/2012 09:52

All of mine were apart from dd1 who was still in nappies at night

cazboldy · 30/04/2012 09:55

ah but the bum wiping..... they were practically at school before they could do that reliably

lynniep · 30/04/2012 09:58

No. DS1 was 3.5 when he started going to the toilet himself, but for #2's he still needed help wiping until he was 4.5.

DS2 is 2.5 and has only just started taking an interest in weeing on the loo. I'm not pushing it - at the moment I'm of the opinion if he wants to use the loo he can, but I dont suggest it becuase he just wont do it on my request.
He doesnt really understand toilet roll yet - he just pulls loads off and stuffs it down the toilet. #2's still take him by surprise - he has no control over it.

RillaBlythe · 30/04/2012 10:00

Yeah - DD potty trained at 2y2m, as in could tell us de needed the toilet, was safely out of nappies etc. But she's nearly 4 now & still doesn't do independent bum wiping - too lazy/likes the company in the bathroom!

Methe · 30/04/2012 10:04

My DS started preschool in January still in nappies. Normally the school wouldn't accept a child who wasn't potty trained but my ds was very premature and a bit behind generally so they made an exception I think. He managed to 'get' weeing on the potty/toilet over easter so now goes in pants with only one accident so far. He saves his poo for his nighttime nappy now, which is nice.

Personally I think trying to 'train' a toddler is counter productive. The (ime) know when they are ready and then it just happens on it's own with no bother.

3 is very young to be able to wipe their own bum.

Rainydayagain · 15/05/2012 19:35

I think that it depends on the type of poo they have!
My son is a clean pooer, never a smear on his tissue. DD is not.
I also think its harder for a girl to not get it everywhere.

I agree with lletting them choose the time my boy was dry at 18m his choice. ( apparently his dad was dry at 11m)

gabsid · 16/05/2012 11:24

DS (now 7) and fully toilet trained has had periods where he wanted to use the toilet and then decided not to, however, at 3 and 2 months he was ready and trained within a week on holiday, day and night with very few accidents.

DD (now 3 and 7 months) was similar but a bit later. She was 3 and 4 months, decided to wear knickers overnight, had 2 or 3 accidents in the first week. The best is that I don't have to remind or ask her about using the toilet, she will tell me and she can hold it really well until we get there.

DD insists on privacy and locking the door wherever we are and is causing a huge szene if I won't let her because she may not be able to unlock it in certain places. Bum wiping is a bit dubious still, I did find poo all around the bathroom on one occasion.

gabsid · 16/05/2012 11:27

I think some desperate training to have them dry by age 3.0 may backfire. If they are not ready I don't think you can push them into it.

RA88 · 16/05/2012 14:03

DD day and night 2.2yrs , all children are different tho

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