Kept dd off nursery today - did I do the right thing?

[mrsotter]

dd1 goes to pre-school in the mornings. I kept her off today as she has been a horror since she got up this morning.

I went back to work this week as my maternity leave from dd2 has finished. I work part time and get in at 8. DD1 refuses to go to bed till I am home so bedtime has been pushed back 2hrs and she refuses to sleep in the day.

So I think she was exhausted and is now laying down on the sofa with her blanket. DH phoned the school for me but he said she wouldn't be in as she was unwell No idea why he said this, but I don't want to lie to the nursery when/if they ask why she was off yesterday.

Was I right to keep her off and what's a quick explanation I can give her teacher in the morning?

i would just say she's really tired and would benefit from a day at home.

no need to lie

and yes, i would do the same

I would tell the truth, they don't have to attend it's voluntary and if she's better off at home then keep her at home.

I would probably look to address the "refusing to go to bed" behaviour sooner rather than later though!

I already feel guilty for returning to work. If she goes to bed before I get in I wouldn't see her from 3pm till she gets up the next morning.

I'm hoping she'll start sleeping in the day to compensate for the lost hours. She's dropped off now so that makes me feel a bit better for keeping her home.

can you change her sessions from mornings to afternoon ones?

I probably could but then I wouldn't see from 12.45 till 8 at night.

There is no win in this situation is there. I need to get a grip that I'm not going to see much of her because of my hours

Or how about not sending her at all one or two days a week and spending the time together instead?

I think thats a really good idea 5ofus, I may mention that to her teacher so she knows

Give her a prize for going to bed early? Nothing major or unhealthy, maybe an extra bedtime story (very very very short one!!) for the days you work, something like that? Keeping her at home for one day is fine - can say she was very tired.