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Staying in pre-school v starting reception in Sept - for very socially unconfident dd

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theliverpoolone · 04/05/2011 18:37

My dd (3.9) is late summer born, so has the option of staying in her pre-school until next Jan or April, or starting in Reception in Sept (either full or part time). She's been in the pre-school for one term and is still very lacking in confidence with other children, very anxious when she's around them and tries to play alone as much as possible. She's much better when she's alongside the teacher doing structured activities, but most of the time the sessions are just free play.
I thought starting her in Reception might be better for her (initially part time) as it would be more structured, but apparently it will still involve a lot of free play, so now I'm thinking of keeping her in pre-school for longer, where we'll have more flexibility around the number of sessions she does and she won't have to do outside playtimes which she really struggled with when she tried a couple of lunchtime sessions. But, doing this will take her away from her year group and the children she currently knows (even if she doesn't really play with them!), and may make it harder for her to integrate back in later? I think most, if not all, the others in her year group are starting in Sept.
Has anyone else gone through/is going through this decision, and have any advice? I'm posting this in Primary Education too, to cover both sides of the coin!
Thanks!

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sammich · 04/05/2011 19:51

While staying in preschool is okay for some children who need the extra time to catch up on milestones and if they are not as confident to go into reception however it is generally not ideal if at all possible

Have you talked to your childs nursery keyworker to see what they think?

While there is a lot of free play in reception as they have to also follow the same early years framework as nurseries they also have the national curriculum to follow so do a lot more structured activities than nurseries so if thats what she enjoys she may be more settled at school than staying in a nursery

theliverpoolone · 04/05/2011 21:53

I spoke to a reception teacher who said that because of the young ones being able to start in Sept now, reception will be very similar to preschool in terms of free play. I'm talking to dd's key worker tomorrow so will see what she thinks.

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