Nursery have asked to have a word about my dd advice please

[laughalot]

Ok my little girl has just turned 4 a week ago she goes to nursery everyday for a few hours and starts fulltime in september.

The teacher asked to have a word today because she is a little behind in her work. She has no interest in writing at the minute she see's nursery as somewhere to go and play. The teacher is very blunt and said im not sure if she is lazy or if she dosent understand, she told me to check her hearing and eyesight to be honest im sure I would have picked up if that was a issue. She also told me to consider speech therapy as she cannot pronounce some of her letters.

I just feel this is all a bit pushy for a child who has just turned 4, I also have a ds who is very bright and it is hard not to compare their abilities but I cannot help it. I do feel she is slightly behind but im hoping one day it will click with her and she will want to sit down and learn.

Laughalot - hopefully you are already assured by this thread that your DD is perfectly normal and the old dear teacher is wrong. Clearly she's quite old school. I would have been at nursery in her 'prime' and could write etc at that age - it was the norm. Now not so.

My friends DS was not at all interested in anything other than tractors, even playing outside he had to take a tractor with him!

He chose to play with the tractors instead of paint/storytime/playdoh/messy play/sticking/cooking/anything and really had to be badgered into doing anything else... he had no idea about any letters/numbers anything and absolutely zero interest...and his speech was terrible.

We were all starting to get worried about him, both from a 'is this normal' viewpoint and a htf is he going to get on at school where he has to do certain things.

Well, he started school in September and hasn't looked back! He still can't write his name, but he does attempt it when he has to [bgrin], he brings home 'stuff' (one painting from all his time in nursery! lol) he still loves tractors... but his teacher says he's a pleasure to have, really knowledgeable about all kinds of things (takes after his Dad, quiet but a mine of info!), he will happily speak in front of the whole class etc.

His speech is still quite difficult to understand at times, but his teacher said no more so than a handful of others in the class and it is improving.

Yesterday he joined in some board games with us, was able to recognise numbers, letters and follow the rules - it was quite astounding how quietly different he has become in such a short time! He is loving school.

I would ask the nursery to assign a different key worker to her myself or if its the entire nursery, move her to a different one - they soon make new friends at that age.

Thankyou everyone, the main school is fab the nursery part im afraid it pretty poor. My ds was in that nursery and he was the similar in some of his ways since he started main school he has done so very well he is a july birthday so is one of the youngest in his year. He is year 2 now and very bright.

Im sure she will get there in her own time and iv decided if she wants to be a princess everyday she can be .

Oh I didn't realise it was the school's nursery - will it stop you getting into the school if you move her?

If you chose not to move her I would be having a few words with them reminding them about the Early Years Foundation Stage stuff and telling them that you don't want her to be made to do things and you want her to be left alone to play as she wishes etc

Yes - let her be a Princess every day, but encourage her to be a modern one and slay her own dragon

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By the time I remember to use the B will be on V for Valentines!! Grrrr

Chipping lol thanks so much for yor advice. I wont be moving her I dont think as the main school is lovely and to be honest its not all that long until july when she breaks up for the hols.

We have parents day coming up soon so I shall be having words.

Good - wear your best 'I'm her Mummy pants' [bgrin]

Hi!, I can sympathise with your situation. My Daughter will be 4 in March and she has been going to nursery since she was 3 1/2. Her teacher said to me this week that she is behind the others, and that last term all she wanted to do is paint and this term its sticking and glueing which i find a bit harsh as these activities she enjoys. She still wont ask them for the toilet but she is remaining dry all of the session as they take her regularly, and she goes ok at home and asks mostly unless she forgets if she is busy playing something sometimes or is very tired and has the odd accident. My daughter is a shy little girl who has never been to play groups etc before and has only really spent time with grown ups in the family so i think maybe it is just taking her time to build confidence in the nursery and speak up as she is very vocal at home, it doesnt mean she has autism like they are thinking. I feel they apply too much pressure on young children to move to fast, all children learn and progress at their own pace if the teachers push or wont let them do the things they enjoy surely it will only cause problems at this delicate learning stage of their lives. obviously things need to be monitered incase a child is having learning difficulties but i think they rush to put them in a catergory without giving them to to florish at their own pace. x

this is interesting stargazer01

I am having a similar issue (if you can brave it read my other thread - most posts at the moment!)

I am nursery nurse and children learn through play and should not be forced to do work they have plenty of time for that when they reach school, have a word with her nursery teachers that you think they are putting pressure on her and that the best way to learn is through play