what do I do a parent has:

[honeybeetree]

Offered to pay my wages as her child (who requires a 1-1) can recive more hours in the pre school?

Is it all to be arranged openly through the pre school or directly from her, i think that makes a difference.

privatly

I'm not sure if i'm understanding your predicament. Do you currently work at the pre school and the parent is offering this with the staffs knowledge and is hoping to boost the number of hours the pre school are providing one to one to enable her child to attend more.

I dont know exactly how it works at a pre school but having worked as a health professional visiting schools i would not consider it if any part of it was kept from the pre school managers. I would also be concerned that any hours worked when money is provided privately may not give you protection if there were an incident of any kind. Who would you be accountable to if there was any queries etc.

What is it you are going to teach them?

Sorry - I'm really confused as to what she is offering to do?

I'm not sure if i'm understanding your predicament. Do you currently work at the pre school and the parent is offering this with the staffs knowledge and is hoping to boost the number of hours the pre school are providing one to one to enable her child to attend more.

I dont know exactly how it works at a pre school but having worked as a health professional visiting schools i would not consider it if any part of it was kept from the pre school managers. I would also be concerned that any hours worked when money is provided privately may not give you protection if there were an incident of any kind. Who would you be accountable to if there was any queries etc.

I am enployed there ... she would essentially pay for my wages for 6 hours a week...

it would be a private termly amount paid to the setting and then paid to me ...

I'm sorry - I really don't get what the problem is here? She has offered to pay the setting so that they can afford for you to work more hours? Surely the only question is - do you want to work the hours?

Sounds like its all open and arranged properly. I dont see what the problem is, if you like the child and want to do it then why not. If any other parents find out and have anything to say then it can be argued that it is for all the childrens benefit as the other staff are not needing to spend time with the child one to one. I would offer the same if my child needed extra attention. Why are you not sure about it?

Would there still be enough staff for there to be a good staff to child ratio when it comes too the other children, or is she going to pay you to give your attention to her child at a time that you wouldn't otherwise be working?

When I wouldn't otherwise be working... just feel bad.....

I give up. If you actually want a little bit of advice about this, you are going to need to post more than the occasional one liner.

so she has said to the pre-school that she wants to pay exgtra for you to work 1-1 with her son?
on top of what you already do?

s'up to you isn't it? do you want the extra work?
is it that you feel bad taking her money?

Me too ChippingIn.

sorry was busy but still feel bad about taking her money as why should she have to whenher child has a need.. ordineraly she would be able to have extra funding but there is no money in the cetral SN pot..... Yes I want the extra work but I feel bad that she has to pay..

** also I sounded bitchy I think I didn't meen to

There is no funding here for any kind of support either. You are not alone. We have several children with SEN's that require 1:1 but unfortunately the funds do not extend to it and these children aren't getting the best that they could be getting.

the mother may recieve direct payments from social services though which would find this 6 hours.

As a parent who could afford to pay a bit to get my childs needs met i would willingly pay even though i would feel sad that i needed to. As long as the parents can afford it the only problem i can see is that when his needs are reviewed and he does well the LEA might say he doesn't need the help originally requested. This could cause problems when he starts school if sufficient support isn't arranged. When there isn't much money they can be very good at finding reason to avoid paying extra. That said, early intervention is usually best so maybe his needs will have reduced by school age.

He will be statmented for school so that shouldn't be a problem