Do I tell pre-school teacher I don't agree with her advice or just smile and nod?

[ZombiePlanB]

DS= active summer born boy

The teaching assistant in his class is keen to tell me to time him out when he does something wrong and today told me to use a reward chart to help him get himself dressed.

Fine but I don't believe in time outs or reward charts (I-know-best emoticon).

I have noticed she seems keen on bringing ds down a peg or two. I haven't met her children though so don't know her parenting worked out!

Do I say that we don't believe in that stuff or just pretend I am following her advice?

I am much more 'How to talk' parenting.

I don't think the TA has done anything to warrant being called a 'silly cow'.

Re. 'thinking spot' - I think that it is good for all the other children in a setting to see that there are consequences to unacceptable behaviour. Not for the purpose of shaming the child, but when DC are mistreated by their peers, it is right that there is a visible outcome.

ZombiePlanB, I am really glad you don't shout anymore! Sometimes they are soooo naughty!

My son's teacher (NEVER a TA, can't see the point) once said that he COULD put his coat on byhimself but he wouldn't. I was shocked to find out because I thought he couldn't! Then I saw the EYFS profile sheet and realised that being dressed independently was in all nurseries' targets set by ministers. So now I always check the sheet, hehe. Of course I don't put pressure on him but it's good to know how I can help him!

I don't do reward charts either but you can ignore her and use a casual treat instead. Like a bit of chocolate at the and of the weak (or the 1st time that he shows he is making an effort) or the odd car you would buy him. Not necessarily these, but basically things that you are already doing. But say "oh, it's because you've done this!" and don't mention that it's actually the casual treat and not an extra. Of course you can have as many extras as you want, who am I to stop you :)