Worried about lack of feedback from nursery

[PrioryParkChick]

My dd (3 year 1 month) just started nursery last week - mornings only at local school. She has been fine going in each day and seems to be really enjoying it, which I am really pleased about. However, I haven't had any feedback at all from any of the teaching/support staff there. When I picked her up today, she was in different socks and shoes having had an accident - but this wasn't mentioned. She told me it had happened outside and she went and got a teacher and was a little upset about it. Obviously didn't make a big deal out of it, just said well done for getting someone to help her and how well she has been doing going off to toilet herself on other days etc. But inside I felt really upset. Have been a bit over emotional today for other reasons... so not sure if it is just me.. but feeling a bit annoyed about lack of information. Am I just being silly to expect any feedback? (have seen other parents getting lots of advice/information but their children have perhaps been upset when being left etc) It is the first time she has been in any sort of childcare so I keep telling myself it is the first time I have been out of her loop so I am just being overly anxious. Just want to know really if other people have had no contact with teaching staff and whether this is normal or not. Many thanks in advance.

I think it's natural to worry when you are used to having your child around all the time and suddenly there is a huge part of their life you know nothing about.

TBH I think what you describe is pretty standard for school nurseries. As everyone arrives and leaves more or less at the same time there isn't a great deal of opportunity for staff to pass on "general information" to all parents and they tend to concentrate on passing on particular points of (e.g) bad behaviour and things that parents have asked them to look out for.

A child having a toileting accident is a common occurence for nursery staff and not one they would necessarily bring up (though they might if say DD started having accidents EVERY day).

However ... it should be entirely open to you to go and ask the staff questions. Do you know who your child's key worker is? Why not ask them how DD is settling in? Or you could say that DD was a little distressed about her accident and could they keep an eye on her/remind her to go to the toilet. If it's too chaotic at pick up /drop off times, you can also ask to have a chat at another time.

Does your nursery ask for parent volunteers? That could be a great way for you to find out a bit more about what your DD gets up to while she is at nursery.

Thanks redskyatnight for your lovely post - made me feel better. She sadly did have another accident at nursery today and they did tell me and said they will keep reminding her to go, and asked me to buy her another pair of shoes in case - bit of a shame as she happily went to the toilet the first 8 days but perhaps the novelty of a 'little' toilet has worn off. Would love to volunteer but was planning on doing it in the infant school so that DD can have her own space. Many thanks once again.