Preemie baby and sleeping in own room

cluelessFTMhere · 2023-01-03T14:15:46+00:00

Hi everyone, my preemie was born at 31 and 3 now coming up to 6 months actual age 4 months corrected. What age did everyone put their baby in their own room? Guidelines say 6 months corrected but did anyone do this earlier?

alittleadvicepls · 03/01/2023 14:18

My DS was born at 34 weeks and went into his own room at 6 weeks actual. It really improved his sleep. It just wasn’t working with him sharing a room with us. I did invest in the owlet though to put my mind at ease.

RewildingAmbridge · 03/01/2023 14:20

DS was born at 35 weeks he went into his own room at around nine/ten months actual, when he grew out of his next to me

Imogensmumma · 03/01/2023 14:21

DD born at 35 weeks went into own room at 3 months… it made us both sleep better

Rowen32 · 03/01/2023 14:22

If you read the APA advice they recommend a year..but six months at least..

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 03/01/2023 14:39

Straight away

BuffaloCauliflower · 03/01/2023 14:42

Please don’t listen to people saying they did it before 6 months, it massively ups the risk for SIDS. All sleep, day and night, should be in the same room as an adult until at least 6 months because the presence of an adult breathing in the room helps to regulate their breathing.

DS wasn’t premature but slept with us until around 18 months when he started waking less frequently. Sod traipsing to another room multiple times a night if you don’t have to, make life easier for yourself

Cloudy0 · 04/01/2023 21:23

DD born at 33 weeks. We tried to hold out for the recommended year, but moved her into her own room at 8 months. I wish that I had done it sooner as it really improved sleep for both her and me. I used a camera to help me feel more relaxed.

CoalCraft · 06/01/2023 16:37

DD born at 33+1 and put into her own room at five months actual. She was an incredibly noisy sleeper so I wasn't getting any rest, and my tossing and turning woke her up. We both slept so much better after the move.

Excited101 · 07/02/2023 19:07

Baby will sleep better in their own room but that’s the risk, she’ll sleep too deeply and breathing can become unregulated which is dangerous and can lead to SIDS.

zurala · 07/02/2023 19:11

I don't mean to be rude but why would you risk your baby's life by doing this? All sleeps for at least six months need to be with an adult in the room as a previous poster has explained.
All the fancy monitors in the world won't help if they develop unregulated breathing. I'm afraid they will only allow you to see your child has died.
I don't understand why anyone would take that risk unnecessarily?

Poppitt58 · 07/02/2023 19:14

6 months corrected- our baby nearly died in the early days, so we didn’t take any risks.

eurochick · 07/02/2023 19:17

Prematurity is a significant risk for SIDS. Why would you risk it?

Ours was well past six months corrected. Recommendations have changed since so I would keep her in with us longer if I were doing it now.

AlwaysFoldingWashing · 07/02/2023 19:21

My son was born at 34 weeks and stayed in a next to me until around 8/9 months (actual, not corrected )

drpet49 · 07/02/2023 19:23

zurala · 07/02/2023 19:11

I don't mean to be rude but why would you risk your baby's life by doing this? All sleeps for at least six months need to be with an adult in the room as a previous poster has explained.
All the fancy monitors in the world won't help if they develop unregulated breathing. I'm afraid they will only allow you to see your child has died.
I don't understand why anyone would take that risk unnecessarily?

This. Madness isn’t it.

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cluelessFTMhere · 07/02/2023 22:37

zurala · 07/02/2023 19:11

I don't mean to be rude but why would you risk your baby's life by doing this? All sleeps for at least six months need to be with an adult in the room as a previous poster has explained.
All the fancy monitors in the world won't help if they develop unregulated breathing. I'm afraid they will only allow you to see your child has died.
I don't understand why anyone would take that risk unnecessarily?

Usually something starting with 'I don't mean to be rude' generally follows with someone being rude. I would NEVER do something which would put my DS life at risk.

Just to update my DS is now 7 months old and 5 months corrected. He is still in his next to me cot in our room. I posted simply to ask for advice and to see what other parents with premature babies did.

Im a first time mum asking for advice. Being a parent is hard enough without people judging when you ask for advice. I understand the importance of babies sleeping in the same room as me which is why he is still in with us and not in his own room yet.

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cluelessFTMhere · 07/02/2023 22:39

Poppitt58 · 07/02/2023 19:14

6 months corrected- our baby nearly died in the early days, so we didn’t take any risks.

I'm sorry to hear this, I hope your DC is doing well.

We haven't taken any risks.

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AreBearsCatholic · 07/02/2023 22:42

22 months, but he was easy to have around. And then back again if he had bronchitis, pneumonia or croup.

AreBearsCatholic · 07/02/2023 22:43

Excited101 · 07/02/2023 19:07

Baby will sleep better in their own room but that’s the risk, she’ll sleep too deeply and breathing can become unregulated which is dangerous and can lead to SIDS.

This is so important but doesn’t seem to be widely explained. Better sleep is the problem not a sign that it’s the right thing to do.

zurala · 07/02/2023 23:08

cluelessFTMhere · 07/02/2023 22:37

Usually something starting with 'I don't mean to be rude' generally follows with someone being rude. I would NEVER do something which would put my DS life at risk.

Just to update my DS is now 7 months old and 5 months corrected. He is still in his next to me cot in our room. I posted simply to ask for advice and to see what other parents with premature babies did.

Im a first time mum asking for advice. Being a parent is hard enough without people judging when you ask for advice. I understand the importance of babies sleeping in the same room as me which is why he is still in with us and not in his own room yet.

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To be honest I don't think it's rude at all, I just know it's a social nicety often expected to say that. I genuinely don't know why anyone would go against evidence and put their child at risk.

Isthisexpected · 07/02/2023 23:37

What's so hard about following the guidelines? It's such a Western thing to prioritise better adult sleep above a baby's needs it makes me so sad. Baby wants to be with you, usually as close as possible (which is hard as prem babies shouldn't bedshare). My prem stayed with me until 18m but I definitely wouldn't have considered under 6 (so 8 corrected).

TomorrowAndTomorrowAndTomorrow · 07/02/2023 23:44

We waited until 5.5months corrected (7.5months actual) before doing any unsupervised sleep - before that every nap and bedtime was with us, then we put her in at her bedtime and usually she was up again an hour later so in with us. She didn't do a full night on her own until well over a year. She also always has the owlet on.

I know its such hard work navigating all corrected/actual rules and I wish somebody would make a really clear guide!

I'm always flabbergasted with parents who choose to ignore very obviously stated and evidence based safety rules. I cannot understand the 'straight away', '4 weeks' comments. For me it's the equivalent of deciding you won't bother follow the rules about seat belts.

Blueroses99 · 07/02/2023 23:48

My preemie went into their own room at 11 months actual.

TheShellBeach · 07/02/2023 23:57

All my babies went into their own rooms at six weeks.