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hugr · 04/12/2021 09:44

My baby boy was born at 26 weeks back in May. Lots of setbacks at the hospital meant that we didn't get home until September. He came home with an NG tube as he wasn't doing all bottle feeds abs had an uncoordinated swallow. My husband and I worked so hard and his NG tube came out a few weeks after coming home. Feeding him was still an issue but the last month or so you'd never even know he had problems eating. It's down to mine and my husbands hard work alone that he's come this far. Some feeds could take up to an hour and then he'd vomit it ask up anyway! Or he would breath hold during a feed and we would think he'd choked.

So why oh why does my DM think that she's the feeding expert?! No reason to this post other than to complain - we spent the afternoon at my parents the other day and every time we fed him she had a comment, even going to grab him off me or my husband if he got fussy during a feed. Don't really need advice as I put her to rights when she put her hands around him while I was burping him but does anyone else have people like this in their life?

I know it comes only from a place of love and wanting to help but we don't get stressed or upset if he's fussy!

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hugr · 04/12/2021 09:46

Also just to say this is a little bit lighthearted - we are thick skinned people who will say if we feel aggrieved and also happy to take any help offered.

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Tee20x · 04/12/2021 09:51

Ugh I have a gran like this. Will always ask why you're doing things in a certain way, "why don't you just xyz", questioning decisions - asking obvious things. We have chosen a nursery and she's asked if we've looked at the ofsted reports ?? Like no we're just sending the baby to somewhere we have no clue about :)

I just do what you to, tell them they're being annoying and to back off and ignore silly questions. I've developed a look which means - I cannot believe you're asking me this.

hugr · 04/12/2021 10:39

Exactly! My mum has declared herself the baby whisperer and every time he stirs will say "I can take him!". It's worse with my dad and sister, constant "is he comfortable like that" "his head his head!!" 😂

I always find people that question just seem so judgy and you feel like you have to justify, but you don't!

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Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 04/12/2021 10:45

Ring her one day and tell her he was Twisty so he slept in a cupboard so you couldn't hear him...
I took cupboard doors off in a bedroom to put ds's cot in the alcove bit. Mil claimed ds never slept because I had him in a cupboard..

hugr · 04/12/2021 10:52

@Santahatesbraisedcabbage

Ring her one day and tell her he was Twisty so he slept in a cupboard so you couldn't hear him... I took cupboard doors off in a bedroom to put ds's cot in the alcove bit. Mil claimed ds never slept because I had him in a cupboard..
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