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Coping with expected long stay in scbu

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Needhelp2021 · 01/01/2021 18:58

Hi I'm just looking for some advice on how to cope with a long stay in scbu.
I gave birth 4 weeks ago to my dc I was only 30 weeks pregnant (been told to look to due date for baby to be home) . Dc was moved to a hospital 40 miles away as that was the only hospital that had space in their nicu. Visiting times are restricted at the hospital due to covid. My lo has now been moved into their scbu, there is a local hospital 6 miles from my hometown that has a scbu that would be so much easier for visiting as I have another child and feel like I'm splitting myself in two and feel guilty. Unless I chase the hospital to ring my local hospital for bed space everyday the hospital just seem happy enough to keep dc there. I just want my lo closer to home.
Im starting to struggle now, I just want to be able to see my baby more than I can at the min, I feel so hopeless, I cry every time I have to go home and leave my baby.
Is anyone else dealing with the restricted visting due to covid, how are you coping?

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Hopefulyear2021 · 02/01/2021 15:59

Hi. My LO is now 19 weeks actual, 8 weeks corrected. She was born at 29 weeks. She was born in a hospital over 20 miles away as they had the intensive care unit there as she was IUGR as well. Once she hit the 1kg mark she was moved to our local unit to free up space. We were only allowed to visit her initially 2 hours a day and had to book the slot the day before which I found really difficult. It feels like Covid is taking precious time away. I would keep checking with the hospital to get LO moved closer if they don't need any further support. When my DD was in the hospital further away they had a charity that would support you with traveling cost as well.

HGC2 · 02/01/2021 16:09

My twins were prem and in the country that we lived in at the time I was only allowed to visit once a day as they wanted the babies to rest and grow as much as possible. It’s so hard though and luckily the hospital were happy with me calling like a stalker, thinking of you all xx

Needhelp2021 · 03/01/2021 21:19

Thank you both for the kind messages.
I keep asking them have they rang the local hospital for bed space, it seems like I have to chase them to get them to ring . Apparently there's no beds closer to me.
It's just the most awful unnatural feeling to be separated from my baby, I know it won't be forever but it doesn't get any easier.

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