Cant remember little medication details and DH can

[PopandFizz]

Hi All,

My child has had 6 surgeries plus 2 EUAs on her eyes. She has glaucoma. Recently we found out that her eye pressure is on the rise again and depending on today's appointment she might need another surgery.
So her appointment happened and she does need the additional surgery, as its 1 parents only atm I was by myself and being bombarded with information to retain for my DH on top of being upset my DD needs another surgery.
They have prescribed a drop that i knew we have had previously. When I got home DH is really annoyed cos it's a lower dosage - which I didnt even realise..and now hes mad that I didnt notice and I said if I had looked at the dosage I still wouldnt have remembered she was on higher before as she has had so many in the last year and this was feb time. Hes made me feel like I've let her down and said he cant trust me with her meds cos I dont remember. I think he only remembers cos of his OCD.

Does everyone else remember these things? Like the percentage of medicine! I feel like I'm doing a rubbish job now but I also feel like it's normal not remember such fine details.
Anyone else have this?

No, I think it's very normal not to remember that sort of detail.

It's also normal to feel overwhelmed and bombarded with information, with no time to evaluate it or ask pertinent questions, during medical appointments.

It is normal too, to trust medical professionals and to start from a point of thinking that they know what they're doing and prescribe what they do for a reason, even if they didn't explain the reason for choosing that precise dose, during in the appointment.

You can deal with some of this; the likelihood of forgetting some things you're told in appointments and the everyday frustrations of thinking of good questions afterwards, by taking notes and asking the HCP to go slowly and to clarify anything you don't understand. You can always get in touch with them afterwards and ask about things you've forgotten or only noticed afterwards, like the dosage.

I wonder why your DH's first response is to think that the new dosage is wrong?

Her doctors would have presumably got her medication history in front of them when they prescribed the new drops. You're not expected to remember everything in order for your DD to access medical treatment!

It does sound as if you were rushed through the appointment, was there any opportunity to write anything down? It might be helpful to write her history and meds out on paper to take in with you, to help with questions. However, if your DH feels that you haven't remembered everything to the same degree that he would have done, why didn't he do the appointment?

@lottiegarbanzo

No, I think it's very normal not to remember that sort of detail.

It's also normal to feel overwhelmed and bombarded with information, with no time to evaluate it or ask pertinent questions, during medical appointments.

It is normal too, to trust medical professionals and to start from a point of thinking that they know what they're doing and prescribe what they do for a reason, even if they didn't explain the reason for choosing that precise dose, during in the appointment.

You can deal with some of this; the likelihood of forgetting some things you're told in appointments and the everyday frustrations of thinking of good questions afterwards, by taking notes and asking the HCP to go slowly and to clarify anything you don't understand. You can always get in touch with them afterwards and ask about things you've forgotten or only noticed afterwards, like the dosage.

I wonder why your DH's first response is to think that the new dosage is wrong?

Thank you for saying you think it's normal.

DH thinks its wrong because we were in the same boat (trying to do as much as possible with the allowed meds due to her being under 1) in feb so doesnt make sense for her to be on a lower dose. I've told him to ring the hospital.

@tribpot

Her doctors would have presumably got her medication history in front of them when they prescribed the new drops. You're not expected to remember everything in order for your DD to access medical treatment!

It does sound as if you were rushed through the appointment, was there any opportunity to write anything down? It might be helpful to write her history and meds out on paper to take in with you, to help with questions. However, if your DH feels that you haven't remembered everything to the same degree that he would have done, why didn't he do the appointment?

Thanks for your kind words.

He doesnt take her cos she has separation anxiety from me so doesnt behave for him. She has to have contact lens removed etc so every bit of cooperation helps.