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Premature baby loss (dad)

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HeartbrokenDAD · 03/06/2018 00:01

Hi,

Not to sure what to write, not to sure how i feel at the moment but after looking on the net i have finally landed here. This morning my partner had our first child that was only 22 weeks old and was delivered deceased. Having Edward syndrome and patau syndrome and a hole in his little heart he did not really stand a chance.
The reason I'm here is i just don't know what to do, who to talk to and how to grieve. Im trying to stay strong for my partner but inside my heart is broken and i feel lost. Please if anyone has any advice it would be gratefully received. I'm sorry if this talk is not allowed, i just don't know who to reach out to or how to.

Stephen

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cestlavielife · 03/06/2018 00:02

Please speak to sands ..sorry for your loss

cestlavielife · 03/06/2018 00:03

www.sands.org.uk/support

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HeartbrokenDAD · 03/06/2018 00:04

Thank you

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elephantoverthehill · 03/06/2018 00:08

All I can offer is Flowers and to ask you to make sure you and your partner look after each other and accept any RL offers of help.

Kleptronic · 03/06/2018 00:24

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's completely normal not to know what to do or how to feel. Take it minute by minute. You and your partner must be utterly reeling right now, I'm so sorry your baby boy has died Thanks

HughLauriesStubble · 03/06/2018 00:26

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Alb1 · 03/06/2018 00:28

So sorry for your loss. Sands has an online forum which is really good, I recommend posting there. Or if your on Facebook there's an unofficial closed sands group too Flowers

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2018 00:32

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Just keep taking to each other. Use his name. Let yourself cry and be sad for all the things you imagined doing with him.

There is a trisomy 13 and 18 group on Facebook where you can get support but it might be too hard at the moment.

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Dorabean · 08/06/2018 06:45

Our little boy died at 24 weeks last year due to complications during birth. I was worried about my DP because he was just trying to be strong for me. He said it helped him focus and get through. My advice to you and your partner would be to get away for a few days, just the two of you. We found that this was a great thing to do as it wasn't a place filled with the same sadness as Home, even though our feelings were the same. A beach is a great place to take walks and talk about your baby, use his name all the time. He will always be part of your family!

I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words to make you feel better but I agree that talking to SANDS may help.

SleepFreeZone · 08/06/2018 10:17

I chose to terminate a very much wanted 17 week pregnancy last year due to confirmation of Edwards Syndrome. I’m 9 months on and it’s definitely got easier. I can talk about it without crying now.

I’m so sorry for your loss 💐

moita · 10/06/2018 12:08

Please keep talking. It might be worth seeing your GP.

Sorry for your loss Flowers

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