I miss being pregnant! It got stolen!

[FraggleRock77]

I've just taken a sneaky look at the Becoming a Parent Section where i used to post! I would be 35 Wks now.
I just keep thinking i have no stretch marks and piles!

Knitting I'm sorry, it wasn't really aimed at you, your comment just happened to come after a rather more flippant one and I'm touchy about it, as you can see!
I actually know what you mean about the guilt - I was hospitalised for 2 months before DD was born so I had an element of relief that it was over, so that I could go home (sort of!), but would still have stayed in for another two months to cook her fully, if I could have.
Hope you've put your mum in her place!

Anyone with a preterm baby would swap the worst of late pregnancy for a full term baby.

Exactly.

My first 2 were prem but no.3 made it a few days short of 40 weeks. Towards the end I was fat, hot (summer baby), exhausted, uncomfortable and in pain. But i didn't care, i wanted him to stay in as long as possible regardless of how difficult it was for me.

With no.2, I had comments like 'ooh i bet you're glad/your lucky you didn't have to push a full term baby out. Oh yeah cos having a baby in SCBU hooked up to tubes and under a phototherapy lamp is sooo much better

And from someone due at the same time as me while she was still pregnant "You should still be pregnant now" . Wow, no shit Sherlock! I wished I was. That one really upset me.

It annoys me when people say "3rd trimesters aren't what they're supposed to be" "it's horrible, trust me". I've had 4 previous healthy PG (including MCM twins) and I would have glady suffered all the ache in the world for my babie to be not only full tetm but healthy and "coming home" ready.

A friend made an insensitive comment about a day after the were born about I should be glad he arrived before Halloween (we love halloween) so we could dress them up. It was the worst thing she could have posdibly said.

Thanks plentyofsoap and runawaysimba I'm glad you understand. I was in hospital for just a few days for steroid injections at 29 weeks and that was bad enough, I can't imagine what two months must have been like.

As for my mother, that's a whole other thread! All the time my baby was having blood tests, not feeding, on the bilimat etc she was constantly saying things like "I'm sure it was because you went shopping the weekend before instead of resting" and "it's because you didn't like being pregnant, the baby must have sensed it" wtf. I had words with her and she was better for a while, but I recently heard her say to my pregnant cousin "oh don't worry, you won't have your baby early, you are careful, not like Knitting". We get on well usually - she just doesn't understand how hurtful her comments are.

Anyway I'll stop threadjacking now.

On the positive, I have two healthy, naughty boys today who are as lively and mischevious as they should be and for that I am truly grateful and always stick up for NHS for being there when I needed them the most with no huge bill at the end....heard Athlete's song "wires" on radio 2 a little while ago which always makes me stop and have a little cry. For those of you with premies younger than mine, can I just say it does get easier and you will get to a stage where you feel you can breathe....well done all of you...I bet we didn't know we had the strength in us....but we did ...