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riamay2011 · 27/03/2012 14:59

Hi Ladies

I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on 14.03.2012 by ECMS she was born at 36+5 happy and healthy and gaining good weight etc now. But, i seem to have gone into a state of 'depression' (cant think of what else to call it)
For the last 2 days i have felt very low and crying a lot. I feel like i am not going to be able to cope as i have a DD who is 11 months and a newborn. I have completely gone off my Dh and feel like running away instead of seeing or talking to him. Even tho he hasnt really done anything wrong apart from not supporting me the other night when i was crying and could explain why he just went off in a strop saying i shouldnt of had the 'kids' if i couldnt cope. I just took myself off to bed we havent really spoke since then, things are very awkward between us at the min the house is full of tension. Not nice when i am already feeling low. I know some of you are going to say talk to him but i cant bring myself to do so.
i told the MW how i feeling and she said it was to be expected but i just feel so low and i am constantly crying if i sit and start thinking about things.
its not helping that i had a CS and the weather is so nice, I feel trapped in my home as i cant get out and DH has gone back to work so i am on my own with the 2 babies. I didnt even get dressed yesterday i felt so dirty but i didnt care.
Can anyone suggest anything to help me feel a little bit better, i love my 2 girls but i feel so alone.
Thanks

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FamiliesShareGerms · 27/03/2012 20:30

Hi, I'm not an expert, but it does sound as if you are depressed. I think anyone would struggle with two under one year old, and there's no shame at all in asking for help. It sounds as if your midwife brushed you off, so you need to speak to her again or see your GP. And you need to mention that your husband is struggling a bit too (I think everyone assumes second time mums will just get on with it, esp when there's a DH / DP around, so they can spend more time with the first timers).

Good luck and congratulations

FamiliesShareGerms · 28/03/2012 10:35

Bumping ths thread in case anyone else can help

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