I’m 23, for most of my life I’ve been childfree and don’t want children. Not because I dislike them, it’s quite the opposite and I have 2 beautiful nieces.
The last 2 years I’ve been feeling a strong urge and having intrusive thoughts that are overwhelming about having a child. I guess it’s what people call ‘baby fever’.
I don’t think I am ready yet, when I think logically I realise I’m nowhere near and need to be stable, happy and have at least experienced some things I’d like to do.
I try not to let it bother me but I also hear incels online drone on and on about how my wombs are ‘drying up’ and ‘I’m hitting the wall’. I know this is stupid as I’m only 23, but incels genuinely believe that and spread this shit online, which admittedly has gotten to me.
I also have epilepsy which makes pregnancy very difficult.
Do you regret having children?