Struggling to accept an unexpected third pregnancy despite wanting another child

[Flowergurl89]

Hey there, looking for a little advice. I am 7 weeks today. But I've been really struggling with the fact I am pregnant. It's my third baby and I was due a Mirena fitting (a week after cycle) after coming off the pop pill which was making me very unwell. That being said me and my husband had always said if we had a third we would be happy. He's over the moon and signed up for the next chapter. I however am really struggling with the pregnancy both physically and emotionally to the point where I have considered abortion (something I don't think I could handle/want to go through). I am just very surprised by my reaction to this pregnancy. I wake up every morning angry and resentful and I'm not sure what's going on is it hormonal? Anyone else had a similar experience? I think maybe I had parked children and ended my motherhood chapter in my head 😅 Any advice anyone else been through similar? From a very tired busy 37 year old working muma.

@Flowergurl89 whatever decision you have made if you or anyone you know ever have a crisis pregnancy (often unplanned pregnancies) or having struggle after abortion (not always the case). Here a list of resources that may help.

lightbeforebreath.org/crisis-pregnancy-support-healing/

Hi OP, this is very normal, it’s sometimes called perinatal anxiety. Have a google and talk to your gp, they might refer you to a good councilling service. Talk to your partner about your fears. First trimester can be harder with later pregnancies in my experience. Sending hugs.

I definitely agree I didn't feel like this the last two times I was pregnant. Currently have some light bleeding and so off to early pregnancy to see what's what. Going to talk to my GP this week, the negativity has mostly subsided, I've decided against a termination I could just not go through with it but I definitely don't feel my normal self and thats after two other pregnancys 😅 definitely struggled more with first trimester as well. For anyone reading this and feeling the same it's important to not rush a decision. Having read up on it there does seem to be a fair amount of people who get perinatal anxiety and seek early abortion and then regret it. So get some counselling asap!

All the best 🌺

Thank you just had 12 week scan and all good here, definitely getting through to the otherside of it now have the odd off day but nowhere near as extreme as the first few weeks!