Abortion

[Kkk17]

I waa pregnant 4 years ago and my 17 year old daughter was saying its going to be a spastic childand was horrible toward me i was also didnt live with my partner at the time and trying to move out somone i was living with that was toxic. I had a termination because of the sitiation and i have regreted it since. My daughter has just become pregnant and i resent her so much im not even excited for her after what sje said to me . I just wish i had kept it 4 years ago. I dont know how to get past this and carry on xx

Hi I saw your post and didn’t want to read without at least saying I’m sorry you are suffering over the regret of the termination. It sounds like you were in a bad situation that possibly was also unsafe four years ago, and that you had little to no support with the pregnancy and with deciding what to do. It seems you made what you thought was the best choice at the time, and that you were thinking of your daughter and the person you were living with. Is this right?

Have you looked into counselling to help you deal with your feelings around the termination? You owe it to yourself to seek help and to be able to forgive yourself for making the best of a bad situation. The counsellor might suggest planting a tree in memory of your baby, that could help too. Hopefully other posters will be along to suggest something that I haven’t thought of.