Abortion

[Kkk17]

I waa pregnant 4 years ago and my 17 year old daughter was saying its going to be a spastic childand was horrible toward me i was also didnt live with my partner at the time and trying to move out somone i was living with that was toxic. I had a termination because of the sitiation and i have regreted it since. My daughter has just become pregnant and i resent her so much im not even excited for her after what sje said to me . I just wish i had kept it 4 years ago. I dont know how to get past this and carry on xx

Hi I saw your post and didn’t want to read without at least saying I’m sorry you are suffering over the regret of the termination. It sounds like you were in a bad situation that possibly was also unsafe four years ago, and that you had little to no support with the pregnancy and with deciding what to do. It seems you made what you thought was the best choice at the time, and that you were thinking of your daughter and the person you were living with. Is this right?

Have you looked into counselling to help you deal with your feelings around the termination? You owe it to yourself to seek help and to be able to forgive yourself for making the best of a bad situation. The counsellor might suggest planting a tree in memory of your baby, that could help too. Hopefully other posters will be along to suggest something that I haven’t thought of.

SorryNotSorry00 hi sorry ive just seen your response . Yes my daughter was horrible to me at the time and said it would be a spastic child and also was still living with my ex who used to shout around the house all the time . The babys father i had not long been with and was giving lots of reasons not to keep it but he said to keep it if i was going to feel depressed after. I felt like i didnt have support but i still struggle every day i feel like if i kept it i would have been alot happier now as im still with the babys dad now. He never seems bothered though xx

@Kkk17 Remember if you need help, you can always try looking at this list of resources the ones you need are near the bottom of the page.

lightbeforebreath.org/crisis-pregnancy-support-healing/