How do you decide what to do?

[MustBeThursday]

I am unexpectedly pregnant. I have two children already, the youngest is 9. Logically, there are lots of reasons to terminate. It would make our lives much harder to go back to baby days. There was concern the pregnancy was ectopic as only found out I was pregnant because of abdominal pain, but a scan has shown it is not. I’m terrified of terminating and regretting it after. I’ve been turning it over and over in my mind and don’t know what to do.

Hello, I’m in the same boat. A complete surprise pregnancy (using contraceptives) I’m on the wait list for tubes tied.
I have three boys. 15,12 and 5

my first two are previous relationship and youngest with my husband we agreed no more as £££, space etc.

I’ve always regretted not having a younger sibling for my little one and my husband would have probably liked more children but we felt we left it too long.

They have always been very close to the small one and the age gap was nothing to worry about. Especially my older one which is similar ages to your gap they’re very close.
If anything it was so much easier than two small and I loved my days at home with the baby doing school runs etc.

I also have so many reasons for not continuing the pregnancy. So many more than to continue other than it was meant to be. I don’t know what to do either.

I have had an abortion before years ago and I had no feelings, hesitation and was quite sure of my decision. I think maybe the pondering means I should probably continue as I don’t want to regret not.

Sorry I don’t have any advice but wanted to let you know I’m in the same situation.
Do you know how many weeks you are?

About 6 weeks. I was also on the pill, not missed any so at a loss as to how it’s even happened.

@royalpython have you decided what you will do?

@MustBeThursdayI am about the same. I haven’t made any steps towards anything to be honest. I think I’m in a bit of shock still. I just keep checking for bleeding.
I had bad sickness with my pregnancies, one with HG I’m not really feeling much right now. Just sore nipples.
What about you do you have more symptoms?

I am worried it will upset my children and take away from them mostly.

@royalpython nausea, spots and sore boobs. I keep waking up with cramps in the morning and expecting to bleed. My eldest is nearly a teenager. All reasoning would point to termination being the more sensible option but I don’t know how I can bring myself to do it.

With my last age gap 10 and 6 years I loved being a mum to a little one again. I really appreciated every minute thinking it was my last.
I went to the zoo this weekend and everyone with small ones were having a hard time in the heat, prams. It’s really easy for me now. 😬

What does your partner think? How old is your youngest?

how did you get on?