So I had a termination about 7 years ago. My DH behaved appallingly at this time , he went on a stag do and returned the day I had my termination and then left me to look after my children the day after my termination. That was nearly the end of us. I didn’t walk at that point as I was vulnerable and just alone in life struggling with my two children 1 and 3. Fast forward to now I had a second termination. I felt so guilty and said I would never do it again but I knew I wouldn’t have dh’s support and everything would fall on me. I have a nice dynamic with my two children 8 and 9 and don’t want to spoil it. He’s tried to be supportive by asking if I’m ok etc and giving me hugs which is a stark difference from last time. Mentally I have not been ok and he knows that. Its been extremely time pressured trying to have a termination before we go on holiday and I’ve not wanted to ruin in for the kids and it’s a long haul. I finally had a termination last week at 5 weeks. I travelled there by train by myself and back again on the same day for a surgical abortion. After they removed everything they said it was more tissue than expected and they are sending a sample to be tested for a molar pregnancy. This has stressed me beyond belief so my anxiety about the whole thing is through the roof. I do also suffer terribly with health anxiety as my dad died suddenly when I was 20. Anyway I rested on the night when I came home but then the next day my husband sent someone round to the house to install something outside. He said they didn’t need to be in the house but they did. The morning after he sent more people round. In fact it was 6 guys with three vans. Again he told me they wouldn’t need to be in the house but they did and were knocking constantly when I was in the shower etc wanting to be in and out. I ignored it as much as I could but needed to answer it at somepoint. I was really upset at this point and told my husband it could have waited and that I was really vulnerable. He did apologise but I feel this didn’t need to be pointed out and that I needed calm and space afterwards to process everything which he deprived me of. I just needed a shower and it get ready by myself. I was really upset and he seemed to take offence to this. I’m really not sure what to make of him. Its just so insensitive. I’ve been up the wall with worry to no end throughout this and he just tells me I just need to get on with it and not fear the worse (I’m thinking about complications when abroad etc and it’s making me anxious). Re contraception I e told him I would like him to consider the snip because of this trauma. I’ve tried all sorts of contraception the coil made me bleed continuously as did the mini pill, I have had the patch and combined pill but I was told they had to take it off me because I have had one aura migraine so I ran out of options and have obviously slipped up twice. I can’t go through this again but his response is for me to wear a female condom. I feel it’s now his responsibility to do something. He said he’s not ‘getting his balls chopped off’ re the snip so for me at this point I’m not having any sex. He’s driving me nuts and i don’t know what to do !